cheating partner

[kate1989]

i was with my boyfriend for 3 years when he cheated, i choose to take him back as i loved him so much and he said he would never do it again , but im so scared he will and when he goes out im scared he's cheating again and i just dont no what to do

[cazzz1975]

this is the difficult part of staying with a partner who has cheated, you have to build up that trust again. maybe you need to have a chat about how you feel with him?

[ummmm]

Can you really live your life like this?

[brenda]

Am afraid this is very much a wait and see situation and only time will really tell.

Are you prepared to spend much of your time wondering and worrying what he might do.?

Not much of a life is it.?

Your decision , of course it is , but is he so special for you to be so miserable?.

[Pigletion]

2 choices: leave him or get over it.

Not saying either is easy, but you have to decide and then take steps to make yourself happy. Think what it would take to restore the trust, speak to him. You can't live in limbo.

Hope you work it out

[Mcvj]

Hey Kate,

Me and my boyfriend were together for two years and he cheated on me - a one night stand which he told me about 3 days later.it was a really rough time and I kicked him out so that I could have enough space to think things over. After a month of grovelling I decided to give him another chance (because in all honesty I missed him) - before he moved back though, we decided to lay down some rules - one of which was that he wouldn't go out on the piss until i trusted him 100% which he didn't.

Like I said, it was a really hard time but once he earned my trust again by doing what I asked of him I had to draw a line under it. It was tempting to bring it up in arguments (and sometimes something can set me off in a mood) but we're happier than ever now. We are now a lot more honest about our feelings and this helps SO much.

If don#t trust him yet, sit down and explain to him that if you want to be together, you're going to have to set the rules for a bit and if he wants to be with you, he'll do it (with a timelimit set)

Hope that helps xx