Dating - how to go about it

[thinkpositive1]

Im a single male and have not dated properly for ages, I have put adverts including pics up on match and plentyoffish but am still a couple of years down the line not meeting anybody.....

After university my friends all moved away and now am finding it hard to have a social life as it usually involves trying to get coupled up people to come out of their comfport zone.

i know people will say just get out there, but its difficult when it is literally just you by yourself looking for friends .....not wanting people to take pity aswell!!!!

[snags]

''but am still a couple of years down the line not meeting anybody''

Are you waiting for people to contact you or are you being 'proactive'?

[craft1948]

what are your thoughts on older women?

[snags]

I like 'em... can't speak for thinkpositive though... hang on... how old?

[Jan1957]

You two, step away from the computer and get out of Relationships and Dating. You obviously don't have any experience :)

[thinkpositive1]

im being proactive messaging women from all over, and although i get a lot of 'your cute' comments, have only ever met a handful of people, none of which progreessed further than a 2nd date.

I LOVE OLDER WOMEN :)

[slinkycat]

Ok its a bit of a cliche, but what are your interests? Instead of looking for a date why not pursue something that interests you, then you may meet someone compatible

[mccfluff]

lol crafty

instead of looking for a date just go out and socalise make new friends and see what happens!

[Jan1957]

On second thoughts, he loves older women.

How you doing!!!!

[craft1948]

:-(

[thinkpositive1]

GO OUT AND SOCIALISE AND MAKE NEW FRIENDs? WITH WHO??? .....JUST WALK UPTO SOME STRANGERS AND BEFRIEND THEM?

[snags]

^ Pubs, Clubs, Mothercare...

[craft1948]

I'm trying to match-make my daughter........how old are you, do you have a good job, what is your income and career prospects......could you love your mother-in-law?

[snags]

''could you love your mother-in-law?''

That's got me into trouble in the past...

[mccfluff]

go to a pub, join a pool or darts team. we have loads of people come in who are working down here and don;t know anyone, its surprisingy how quick they become part of the crowd

[slinkycat]

Do as mcfluff says, or sign up to a local class, just don't look desperate!

[thinkpositive1]

I AM 27, i hae a degree, i was working in my chosen sector but when the recession started had to take a 'normal job'

so no prospects at the moment, but am looking all the time for jobs back in my chosen industry

[slinkycat]

Sorry. but what does your job situation have to do with your question?

[thinkpositive1]

crafft asked me about my job prospects as she is matchmaking her daughter

[mccfluff]

oh and always get to know the local barmaids, they can hook you up doncha know

[slinkycat]

ok so this is a wind up!