Interpretting mixed signals

[Alfondo]

Ok folks here goes!!
I am just waiting on a divorce and have a girl who I think is flirting with me, we only see each other 1 night a week at a part time job & recently I became her boss, she knew my ex & always compliments me on how I handled the breakup (tragic circumstances) recently she is playfully hitting me, always looking for a giggle, and has been talking about sex, feelings, settling down, kids etc & how dissapointed she is not to have found anyone & how she has a recent boyfriend who aint special but "its all I am gonna get".......we have been texting & they have been meaningfull texts with her saying things like "your a great guy" "you really make me laugh" etc, she is strong willed as am I and we are quite fiery together, anyway recently I have developed feelings for her but I am scared I am reading things wrong (I can also be a little bit intense & quite rude while thinking I am being flrity!)

She also described her perfect guy and mentioned all the attributes I posess, she has had a few "dramas" that she required my help on recently & asks for "advice" on stuff to do with how guys act the way they do, It feels like she is sizing me up but are woman that obvious?? she gives mixed signals though & sometimes says things like "your hard for me too handle" & stuff like that & chats about ex's and current boyfrineds quite freely

IS SHE FLIRTING WITH ME?? OR AM I JUST SEEN AS A FRIEND??

THANKS FOLKS

[China Doll]

She sounds like a grade one nut job with an attention seeking streak to me.

She doesn't sound like she's flirting or seeing you as a friend. Rather you are interested in her life and she enjoys the drama, she already has a back out clause cause you're just 'too hard to handle'. I know that's a sweeping judgement but if any of my mates told me they'd met a girl like this I'd be saying the same thing. However I'd also say if you like her that much, ask her out and see what happens/her reaction is.

Good luck, I suspect you're going to need it.

[brenda]

I think this girl is flirting with you , and you are allowing yourself to be taken in by her remarks.Her remarks are frequently flattering to you and I would urge caution on your part. As you are her boss as well , I would be doubly cautious.If she is relating all her probs to you about other males ,what do you think she may relate about you to others.

I think this girl is playing a game , for attention or whatever, and this may cause you some problems in the end.
I do not think you are in a good situation , and would suggest that you try to be less involved with her personal problems than you are at the moment.

A bit of distance , may be just what is needed.If she is still interested in you and vice versa after a bit of space and time , then ask her out , nothing too serious and see how things go.

[ummmm]

Yes...I agree. She's playing games. Sounds like the kind of girl that flirts until you ask her out. Then she says I only see you as a friend. It's an ego boost.

[Alfondo]

Its not about "being in with a shout" its about me learning to read signals correctly, after a divorce your ability to read a womans advances get blurred.....a rebound thing I think

[TTG]

Just ask her out for a daytime coffee somewhere.

[Androcles]

If you have become her boss, forget it, or one of you should move on and continue it outside that particular relationship. If you play along and it all goes wrong, I can see a big sexual harrassment allegation coming along and you would be laying yourself wide open. If she is saying inappropriate things to you waht impact is it having on the rest of the team if there is one? I reckon leave well alone.