What do I do for him then?

[Cindylou41]

I have been a mistress for almost 11 months and I completely adore the man I have this relationship with. However, recently he told me that before I came along that he was really happy at home (and still is) with his partner and family and that there had been 'nothing missing' in his life for him to have this relationship with me. He simply moved everything up to fit me in, I didn't fill a gap as it were. This has made me wonder what my purpose is then, or my role. I don't feel special any more. Has anyone got any ideas..please?

[ummmm]

What I'd like to know is...why can't you have kinky sex with your husband/wife. Or why are there things you wouldn't dream of asking them to do?

[Sqad]

ummmm....good morning my love......I will just put Mrs sqad on to answer your question.#


"ummmmm whoever you are, don't put more disgusting ideas into my husbands head and mind your own business"

Mrs sqad.

[ummmm]

lol....sorry Mrs Sqad.

[CAJ1]

Obviously this set up isn't making you happy anymore therefore you need to do something about it. You wanted to feel special and loved by him but as others have said he is just in it for the sex. He would not be upset if you ended it tomorrow, maybe he'd be annoyed about losing the sex but he wouldn't be upset about losing you.

You should stop this and go out and find someone who isn't already attached that will love you and make you feel special, he is never going to do that, he is never going to leave his wife and you are never going to have a future together, what do you want in the long run? To be a bit on the side for him to use or to have someone who you can have a proper relationship with? You're wasting your time with him.

[tamborine]

mistress = saves paying for a prostitute!