parent relationships

[CaZwAz]

Ok here is my small problem. I feel smothered by my mother. When I was younger I never used to live with her, we were 300 miles apart and I did miss her but was happy with visits and chats on the phone. Then I decided to leave my small village and move to the city, where my mum lives. Not to be closer to her but for work and lots of my friends live here. Now my mum knows how much money I earn to the exact pound, she knows how much i spend, she wants to meet up with me once a week and isnt happy if i dont. At the moments were seeing each other more than once a week. She has no close friends, doesnt drink, doesnt go out to meet people and Id just love for her to meet a nice man, someone to give her some company and maybe take some of the pressure from me.

[karenmac60]

Maybe she's lonely and also feels guilty for not having been a bigger part of your life when you lived so far apart. Talk to her and explain that while you love seeing her you would like to see her get out more and enjoy her life, that she has a lot of love to give and deserves to have a relationship of her own but that she's not going to get that staying at home. Maybe you could join a class or club with her, then when she starts to make more friends you can come up with another commitment and leave her to get on with it.