how would you feel/ what would you do if........

[ooh-la-la]

You moved into your own flat, and on the first night without asking you, your boyfriend who is not living with you but will be staying most nights let his family come around while you were trying to unpack, and then let his sister stay the night

[what..the?]

used, taken advantage of..

[cazzz1975]

If I was not expecting it probably grizzle about it and move on. if the boyfriend is staying most nights he is going to feel like its his flat as well.

[tamborine]

Find another flat & not tell bf

[ludwig]

I'd feel as if I'd had an early warning.

[boxtops]

I would be livid. It's my flat, he'll only be staying if I ask him to, damned cheek to treat the place like it's his own - and certainly not to let someone else doss down in your place, Early warning, I think - watch out, the boys'll be round to watch the footie on Saturday.

[DaisyNonna]

single again!

[piggynose]

have a threesome

lol

[Prudie]

I'd feel used too unless I had been desperate for my BF to show me more commitment.

[cazzz1975]

why not talk to him about it, it seems a bit dramatic to end a relationship on something so trivial..?

[TTG]

Tell him not to let it happen again. He is not living with you and it's your flat. You have to consulted before anything like having visitors. Lay down the 'ground rules' from the start otherwise you will get walked all over. Does he have a key? I would not let him have one yet.

Good luck with your move. Lovely avatar picture.

[Mick-Talbot]

wouldn't bother me at all

[arwyn]

Will he be paying anything towards the bills?? if so he can invite people,,,,,, if not I agree with ludwig.

[Mick-Talbot]

is his sister hot?

[welshlibranr]

I'd be a bit annoyed, but maybe he just didn't think, he probably was excited about the new flat and wanted the family round to share the excitement with you both, he didn't think about the practicalities!.......he should have spoken to you first, but have a chat with him about it!...............Hope you can resolve the problem!..........

[LadyGooGaa]

It's only nbatural that you would be peeved off... however I totally agree with Welshlibranr advice.

[ooh-la-la]

imma show him these answers, hopefully it will make him understand a little better. It is a different country so maybe that's how they act here. I don't think he's gonna pay anything towords the bills although we haven't discussed it.

lo @ ttg, thankyou i'm wearing my blonde wig there!!! hehehehehehehe

[thebarron]

Dump him.

[boxtops]

where are you, ooh-la-la?

[ooh-la-la]

the dominican republic. I moved here to be with him but i said can we see how it goes in the first month and then maybe move in together. His sister is a sweetie but i haven't been alone with him in the flat since i moved in yesterday and it doesn't look as if she's going home tonight as well

[ooh-la-la]

i am learning spanish which is what they speck here so i am beginning to wonder if i asked her to live with me myself!!! hehehehehehehehe knowing me i probably have