Can't be bothered to have friends/unsociable

[MissCommando]

I've been living in this town for 2 years now and I can honestly say I don't have any friends. I work part-time (work with some lovely girls) - they always invite me out if they're having a get together but I always decline as it's not my thing.

I chat to a woman on the school run and she's mentioned meeting up/going out but again I can't be bothered to have a friend.

I am quite happy to chat in work but just to spend time with my husband and daughter on weekends/evenings.

I know this sounds really corny but my mum is really my best friend and I speak to her most nights for an hour or more. I have actually got an old school friend coming to stay this weekend and I had my auntie and her bf over to stay last weekend which was nice. However, I am quite happy to be a 'larry loner' lol. I know my husband thinks I'm a bit odd cause I don't want/need friends and sometimes he wishes we had people to go out with.

Do you think I'm just unsociable? I don't feel that I'm missing out at all. It's my choice to keep myself to myself

[Sqad]

That seems a perfectly normal and adult attitude to your life.

Not everyone needs to sit at a bar cracking jokes or going on bus trips with a load of women in funny hats and singing bawdy songs.

You live life the way that suits you.

[grasscarp]

If you have chosen to live like this I wonder what you want us to say. Yes, you are unsociable in the way that people invite you to socialise with them and you always refuse. It's your life and who are we to criticise you.

[DEN53]

Hello Miss C. I don't think you are 'larry loner'. You seem to have a lot of social contact. I think you have it just about right. (:0)

[MissCommando]

Hmm, I'm not sure what I want you to say. Maybe just wondering if I'm the only person who doesn't want friends

[madmaggot]

Some people just need more/less social interaction than others; it's not wrong, just different.
The fact is that you probably get all the socialisation that you need by chatting to your colleagues at work. If you didn't work, or worked on your own, you might find that you crave more interaction with others in your own time.
You're happy with the way that you are so there is really not a problem; it's not that you're unfriendly or rude to people is it, you just don't want to go out and about with them?

[pretty_snowdrop]

You sound exactly like me. I do go out now and again with the lasses from work but usually I can't be bothered. My husbands family are always having do's that I go to because I can't do with all the hassle if I don't.
I am quite happy to stay in with hubby and kids and watch life go by.

[whiskeryron]

Well done sqad MissCommand is describing me.

[DEN53]

I think trying to make friends, is hard work. If people come along, who you have an instant spark with, then perhaps a friend is made.

[MissCommando]

madmaggot - you're completely spot on! Thanks - yeah I'm sure I would go stir crazy if I didn't work

[Sqad]

Ron......and me....;-)

[Big Jenny]

Yes, it sounds as though you are unsociable ... and what's wrong with that? I am exactly the same. I have a couple of old school friends who live over 150 miles away and with whom I correspond on a very infrequent and erratic basis, but no friends in the town I live in. I can't bear the idea of people popping in and out of my house all day long, and I don't want to go to their houses. I enjoy my own company and love it when I get the house to myself for a day, or a weekend. I shop in advance so I don't have to go out at all, and immerse myself in the things I like doing. I hate it when the 'phone rings or there's someone at the door (fortunately that doesn't happen much). I have my husband, my sons and their girlfriends, and my parents, and I don't feel the need for anyone else.

[ubasses]

I think a lot depends on your family, I have a very small family and don't know what I would have done without without my closest friend, also have acquaintences where we only meet occassionally but if whenever someone has problem or illness we would help each other out. You seem to have that with your family which is fine. Really as long as you are happy you must be doing the right thing.

[JimmyCooper]

I have very few close friends, I have a lot of aquaintances and the majority of my freetime I spend with my other half, dog and SKY plus.

I've done the going out thing to death and know just want a quiet life and cant be bothered with a lot of the nonense that comes with going out socially