I need help.

[Englishbird]

My ex boyfriend owes me �2500. we split up over a year and a half ago. i have now threatened to take him to court, but I dont have any actual proof. It was a verbal agreement and it was for things i paid for and some of it was in cash. I have the statements showing i took the money out of the bank and some text messages refering to 'the money' but that's about it.  He's now becoming quite threatening and it's causing me so much stress i'm starting to get ill.  Should i persue this in court or walk away.  I don't want him to win, but I don't know what to do.

[ursula62]

I'm afraid that if you have no proof you have no real case. You could try the CAB as they can give you more specific advice if they have more information. Collect all your paperwork together before you make an appointment.

Realistically though I think you should prepare yourself for the worst.  Try not to be bitter about it. Remember, if he's making you ill then he's won anyway.

My ex left me with massive debts, which will take about another 10 years to clear completely. It took a long time to realise that if I was bitter about it the only person that hurt was me.

[Didwot]

If you take the matter to Court it will be a question of who the Judge believes on the day.

[insol]

seeing as you've threatened to take him to court i would take that step if you go to your local county court you can get the paper work to issue a summons against him for recovery of the sum for around 50 quid. this sometimes is all that's needed and it might spur him onto paying some if not all the money. if he defends the action you will have to attend court and argue this out in front of a district judge this as daunting as it may sound and they're geared up to be quite user friendly. if you go down this route it depends on who the judge believes but if you have statements and text messages referring to money i believe you will be assured of getting some money back at least. if you don't like this course of action you could always send him a statutory demand without judgement threatening to make him bankrupt if he doesn't cough up within 28 days. this is a free method and may prove succesful.