Daughters return

[geordie22]

After a career change my 40year old single daughter is returning to the family home to live,could anyone out there advise me on what would be a fair charge for her board (room, food, washing and ironing etc.) Thankyou.

[stanleyman]

A fair charge would be to assume a total rent cost for the house plus all bills and divide that between all living there plus or minus a labour charge for cooking, washing and ironing that you or she may do.

Depending on how you feel about her being there you may wish to increase or decrease the charge to take account of the downside and upside of someone else living in your home. I'd charge double for my kids :-)

[Ethel]

I really do think she should be doing her own washing and ironing and help out with the cooking and cleaning too.

Assess the running costs of the house and divide by the number of adults.

If you both agree you should be providing a 'hotel' service she should pay more.

[robertson]

my friend Eva from Putney says 'charge her all house expenses'

[gammaray]

Charge whatever you could get for renting out a room in your area (I'd insist she did her own washing and ironing though, it is your home... not a hotel)

[Blyss]

I would charge her roughly around a third of her weekly pay, if on the other hand shes not working and is living on welfare , I would charge her the full giro .She should also help towards fone bills ect.

[kazza12345]

as a rough estimate, the charge for living there should be 1/3 of her income, PLUS bills, including a share of the food bill

[antiguru]

What's your motive?

If you need the money do it on a commercial basis, look at what she'd have to pay elsewhere. Might be worth looking at the rent a room scheme with the IR. You can take �4250 per year tax free if you're a law abiding citizen.

If your motive is for her or you to feel she's not just leeching on you you only need a nominal amount to cover bills etc.

If your motive is to deter her from staying too long set the rate above the commercial rate and keep your fingers crossed...

[WendyS]

Quite apart from the financial issue, I think it would be helpful for you to think about how this will affect your way of life. She will be used to having her freedom, as you are, and if you are used to having friends drop in for coffee, a meal, or to stay do you want to maintain some privacy or have her join in - and vice versa from her point of view? Two women sharing a kitchen doesn't always work, even if it's mother and daughter, so sit down together and work out some rules in advance to avoid possible friction later.

[bobis]

hi i would like to know what planet some of these people come from - this is your daughter, you brought her into the world - why not give her every chance to save up and get a place of her own after all charge her large amounts for rent - shell stay longer.

[bellasasha]

omg my parents would never charge me for living at their home!! i find it really strange some parents feel the need to do this. i am not having a go or anything but i'd like to understand why some parents do it