Is my ex entitled to my house

[ollywilli]

My ex walked out on me over a year ago and claims domestic violence, which is unture.

My ex keeps making remarks that she is entitled to living in the house or have a proportion of it, and that our son is entitled to live in the house until he is 18.

She was not on the mortgage and did not pay anyhthing towards it, I paid it all, she did not pay any bills, or contribute in any way to the house appart from the odd bit of shopping, although she tries to claim she has paid something.
we were together for just over 2 year, and not married.
we have been through the court system for contact with our son, and the house was not brough up at the time.
she is now struggleing with rent of her own house and is wanting me to help her out but I do not have the money as she left me in alot of debt, and cannot get a council house until she has explored the avenue of seeing if the is entitled to my house.

I bought the house for 148500, not worth 125000, and I am also in negative equity.

so my question is, is she entitled to my house?
and is my son entitles to my house ot live in it?

[ummmm]

When did you buy the house?

As far as I'm aware no, she's not entitled to your house. If that was the case women all over the country will be hooking up with men and having babies so they can live rent free for 18 years.

[ollywilli]

I bought the house in december 2007, I did own a house prior to movining into that house which was again solely in my name again and paid for eveerything from may 2005

[lil123]

The boot was on the other foot for me when I left my husband. The house was mine and I had to leave with my kids as he wouldn't get out.
I had to sell it and then get a order to have him removed from the property.
It was very very messy and very expensive.
Nearly all I made off the house went on legal fees.
We were married along time though and not just a few years.
I now have to rent as there is no way I can buy a property again.
Moral of the story , Stay single and happy ???

[ummmm]

You can't just take someones house off them. She's living in rented accommodation so is not homeless. If she can't pay her rent then that is down to her. Not your problem. Your responsibility is towards your son and as long as you are paying maintenance and being as good a father as you can....

[ummmm]

lil...you married him. Everything changes when you marry someone. People seem to think there is something called 'common law' There isn't. You take out what you put in. In this case...nothing

[Graham-W]

Your ex has no rights to a share of the house. If she was she would be responsible for her half of the negative equity in the house.
See here under "separation". http://www.relationsh...habiting-couples.html

[ollywilli]

wow thank you for the quick responses.
she is currently asking for £1000 "loan" and paid back in the sense of I reduce my monthly mainenance (which is cash ech month) so pay of her arrears of her rent, and If I am unable (or blackmailing) to do is to go through CSA which will bancrupt me, but she would be no better of as she will then have to delare the maintance. But she keeps suggesting I should put my son first, obviously I do not want him to go homeless, as he has a home with me, but she puts the guilt trip on me when I cannot as I dotn ahve the money.

[ummmm]

Is she on income support?

[ollywilli]

i believe she is, she worked for a while a few months ago then left "sick" due to a complicated pregnancy (not mine) another lads, who she is not with now

[ummmm]

lol...so she's pregnant with another mans child and thinks you should house her? Freeloader springs to mind....

[ummmm]

She should get her rent paid if she's on income support.

[jackthehat]

DO NOT pay her maintenance in cash.
In a few years she will go to the CSA herself and claim that you have never paid maintenance. Unless you have records, they will take her word and hit you with a bill for thousands.

The CSA are, actually now, not as bad as they have been. Approaching them yourself may be uncomfortable, but it will save you greater headaches and heartaches later on.

[redcrx]

she should also be notifying them of any cash in hand she is receiving from you.

have you checked how much the csa would take from you?

[ummmm]

Jack...they may hit you with a massive bill but they do nothing to get the money.

[ollywilli]

Yes I am getting her to sigh a receipt book every time I pay, I am paying less then what CSa would ask for, as I am paying a loan for a cosmetic surgery!

so is is unlikely she has a claim on the house or the assets then.

[jackthehat]

I understand what you mean, ummmm, but occasionally they are a little more tenacious and if advising ollywilli now save problems later on, as well as ensuring that he takes financial responsibility for his child.......(the ex has to take care of herself).

[ummmm]

Who's cosmetic surgery?

[ollywilli]

Her's to get over her depression boob and tummy tuck

[ollywilli]

yes we was together when I paid for this. I know I will not get the money back and dont expect this money back.