How importent is cristmas persents to childern

[postage]

what do you think if grandparents do not give Xmas presents to there grandson becasue they are lazy. but when asked they say we something or him we'll give it in our own time

[China Doll]

A 15 month year old child wants a present? I don't think so.... I think it's you who wants the present to prove I don't know what.

Even if the grandparents actually don't want to have anything to do with the child then they will be the ones to lose out. Frankly I can see why they might possibly not want to be about when you are, you sound more interested in the present than them spending time with the child.

[woofgang]

he's 15 weeks old, how can "he" want a present!!!

[alid5]

Each to their own Id say.
Christmas is time for families and friends to share, I luv giving presents no matter what age, its the thought on what you give not the amount you spend. My youngest son does his Christmas present shopping in the local pound shop and buys some terrific presents for family. I make sure all my family have presents to open on Christmas morning but my sister usually delivers hers days after Christmas, and she lives close by.

[rowanwitch]

I must admit if I were a grandparent and my 'daughter in law' was only concerned with presents I wouldn't take to her either... might be a good time to suggest it doesn't really matter for this year as little one is so young and work on improving the relationships all round taking their money out of the equation... probably most of the effort will need to come from mum and dad but surely its worth a try. Much more likely they will be generous if the bond is better

[postage]

AHHHHHHHHH he's not my baby. I wish he was he's so cute,my bialogical clocked ticked away I am afraid.

[johnk]

Post, this sounds more like a rant against your in laws? I suggest you visit them with baby and try to be polite (you don't have to like them). It would benefit the whole family if you could just put up with them.

[B00]

"AHHHHHHHHH he's not my baby"....Eh? Who's baby is it then?

[redcrx]

is this down to you not liking your sisters husband and his family? Or is it your brother's family again?

[DTCwordfan]

The mailman's baby perhaps......

[China Doll]

<Rolls eyes> So it's basically none of your business and since you're not even the mother or father of the child you probably don't have the full story (none of us really knows what goes on behind closed doors). No point in saddling the high horse for no reason so I suggest you mind your business.

[postage]

well true but christmas importent then?

[postage]

he s not my baby or brothers or sisters he's a friends ok, just thought i'll ask what you lovely people thought? hmmm

[postage]

how canyou say we;ll give you present when we get around it,,, OMG thats not good

[postage]

never mind,

[redcrx]

if they have the present and live so close then surely the gifts would have been exchanged when the grandparents and parents got together over christmas. My children (aged 3 and 6 and so aware of what christmas is) didnt even consider that waiting until new year to see nan was any delay on a gift, in fact they were surprised there was a gift. Not because they dont get gifts from grandparents but because they have not been brought up to expect them as a right.

[woofgang]

OP, can you say "its none of my business, I'll keep my nose out"?

[Kassee]

Surely we can ask a question on the answerbank - without having to be "related" to the person we are asking about. "Mind your own business" - well thats very friendly. Surely this is a question/answer forum. If you dont want to answer the question in a more friendly way - then I suggest you watch the television instead.

Personally, I think a 15 month old child is the age that "christmas presents" were designed for. Just the right age to enjoy having a christmas present. And I think it is very sad that grandparents haven't bothered. But really it is up to the parents of the child, to make his Christmas special.

[GrantA]

In my opinion and experience, I feel that 15 month are a bit young to understand that Christmas means they get presents etc, my daughter was just 20 months old at her second Christmas and she didn’t really understand why she was getting presents etc but was still happy to get them. The Christmas just gone she was 3 and half and she knows that "Santa gives out presents for good girls" and was really excited about the whole thing.

For all the Christmas since having my children, I have either asked the grandparents what they were doing and either asks them to come to us for the day or if they didn’t want to come to us, when we could go and see them.

Also it does depend on the type of relationship the parents have with the grandparents as to how easy it could be to arrange etc, after all for the sake of the children they all should make an effort to either see the child or to make the arrangements in order for everyone to see the child.

Either way, I feel it is down to the parents of the child to make the effort in order for the grandparents to see their children especially at certain times like birthdays and Christmas.

[woofgang]

kassee If people phrase their questions here with an "agenda' then they must be prepared for responders to comment on that agenda. The OP asked for an opinion and I gave mine.

[Nini74]

my 15 month old son didn't have a clue what was going on at christmas with people puttng pretty packages under his nose and telling him to open them - at that age they're just too young to understand, so its not as though the baby is missing out on anything... i find it odd that your friend asked the in-laws whether they'd bought him anything - i would never ask that of anybody, nor expect it - any present he got at such a young age was a bonus as far as i'm concerned - perhaps the in-laws dislike your friend for being so rude...