How to Fix This Spat

[DallasV]

Your husband is going to Staples to buy glue for your daughter. You specifically ask him when he will be home. He replies that he is going there and back. He arrives home 3 1/2 hrs later and is surprised that I am irritated. He says he thought I would be asleep so he didnt think it would matter when he came home or that he hadnt called to let me know he would be late. He is mad because 1) that I am irritated at all
2) that I didn't call HIM if I was worried
3) that I didn't appreciate the fact that he let me relax today while he looked after the kids because if I did I wouldn't be mad right now.
I am now MAD because
1) if he didn't want to call for ANY reason, he should have just come home.
2) because I asked him where he was "I don't make sense".
3) assumes because I asked the horrible question "where were you?" that I want to start a fight because there is no difference between irritated and angry.
Any thoughts regarding this matter. Would love to hear a solution.

[ummmm]

Did he tell you where he was? Why didn't you ring him?

[berniecuddles]

perhaps he stayed out because you keep moaning at him all the time.

[Old_Geezer]

The solution is not to make mountains out of molehills, put it in the past, be the adult one and forgive, and both learn what annoys the other and how the other ticks so one can be more compatible in the future.

[douglas9401]

So, did he remember the glue?

[jomifl]

He was probably too embarrassed to tell you that he was stuck in the shop.

[joeluke]

Does he have to report his every move to you? Maybe you could fit a tracking device to him?

No wonder he didn't come home straight away if you whinge at him over something so trivial

[ummmm]

I just don't understand why she didn't ring him.

[Mick-Talbot]

Any thoughts regarding this matter.

You need to get a grip. Why did you specifically ask him when he will be home?

[vivandorron]

Hi Dallas....Have we met before today.? Hope this isn't a sticky question to answer.

Ron

[DallasV]

Great answer, I'm sure that took some time for you to come up with. Not that it matters because there is a thing called RESPECT, but my husband was suppose to pick up our child from school. Because I work nights, I was asleep and NO ONE was there to pick her up. Shes 6 years old, unfortunately not old enough to walk home from school when you live in the city. So there is the reason for specifically wanting to know what time he was going to be back. But then with your small mind, I'm sure you'd still give him a pass:)

[DallasV]

Above response to Bernie and joe. Thank you for all others.

[ummmm]

So he didn't pick your child up from school?

[Zacs-Master]

mmm, I see a picture emerging.

[DallasV]

This was my very first time posting a question and after reading a few of the remarks, I was almost scared away. I'll have to remember that all info IS relavent.

[DallasV]

Lol yes

[DallasV]

Your advice was ver helpful and appreciated.

[joeluke]

No mention of him not picking up child in OP

Does Husband ask your permission to go out to play when one of his mates calls for him?

[vivandorron]

I'm just curious. Are you related to anyone by the name of Marufoo ?.

Ron.

[DallasV]

No he does not, unless something was previously planned. And not related to anyone with that particular name.