Bullying

[DSJ]

I was bullied at school because I was very small for me age.

My husband was bullied because he was a very plump child.

My grandson is being bullied because he lives at home with two parents who are married, & a younger sibling who is the child of both.

What a strange world we live in.

[ummmm]

SirA...I don't understand that. Men make random derogatory comments to you in the street? Strangers?

No one is ugly enough to warrant that.

[boxtops]

sir.alec - you seem to know some very unpleasant men

[Jeza]

Sir Alec. No one is ugly. If people tell you often enough that you are then you yourself begin to believe it. Who first told you that you were ugly? Someone obviously picked up on this and realising how much it upset you carried it on. I bet it was one of your parents or a sibling.

[ummmm]

Mike....we didn't all experience this so please don't talk down to us.

[owdhamer]

Being half welsh part irish, fat, with red hair made me a target for a short while at school,but my fighting ability soon stopped it

[Sir Alec]

I used to walk into a classroom where the boys would sit around the back of the room. When I entered the room, they would chant 'Uglee, uglee' at me. The teacher was present and did nothing.

[boxtops]

It doesn't mean you are, though, sir.alec - they just got you believing it, they did it because they knew it upset you. Don't still believe it now...

[ummmm]

Alex...how old are you now? Are you saying that adults are still doing this to you?

[Sir Alec]

Yes, but unfortunately it continues into adult life. I saw a man at a garage, when my Dad was 'filling up'. I didn't see what he said, but he was looking at me and the woman beside him said.'Don't be so horrible'.You'd think I'd get used to it but I don't. I avoid mirrors at all costs.

[Mamyalynne]

This is a very emotive topic - as a child I was geeky, gawky, curly haired, skinny and bespectacled, they tried it on with me , but I had been taught such good self respect of my worth they failed miserably.

I am still not beauteous but am loved and proud of that fact.

The best lesson we ever teach our children is to be proud of who they are. Believe me I am not decrying how much this can hurt.

[Sir Alec]

Mamya. When I discussed this with my parents, they would laugh and tell me i was making it up and lying. The laughter hurt the most, I felt degraded.

[queenofmean]

I agree mamya. All the bullying has made me who I am today, tough on the outside and a bit squishy in the middle.

[ummmm]

So clever Mike...are you the plant that will manipulate me getting banned? Are you scheming with Knobby and Doc? It's not going to happen..I will not bite to your pathetic attempts to rile me.

And to think you educated our children....no wonder education has gone down hill when teachers are nothing more than internet trolls. Shame on you !!

[Sir Alec]

Exactly QoM, I'm painfully shy, but I hide it well.

[Mamyalynne]

SirA, without the support of your parents, it is little wonder you felt so low and let down, you must at all costs realise that you are not grotesque (I do not need to see you to know that). You may think it is late in life to develop a thicker skin and some pithy put downs but it isn't.

QoM I agree what doesn't see you off makes you stronger.


Mike, behave.

[ummmm]

Alec, could they have laughed because they thought it was ridiculous? That they looked upon you as beautiful so dismissed your fears?

[ummmm]

I hope you are offended by being linked with the knuckle dragger's.

[Sir Alec]

No ummmm, born on a Monday and in no way beautiful at all. I wish. I see beauty in other people. So called 'ugly' men. They often have beautiful eyes. I see their beauty, but they don't see mine.