just pregnant with 2nd child and need help with boyfriend

[B.Bee]

i have been told in heated debates that he wished he'd never met me, he has struggled since we had our first child a year ago however tonight he says he doesnt feel like a good dad and he wished he'd never had children. i know my hormones are bit all over the place but i feel really sad, he is a really good dad but i am so upset about these comments. any ideas how i can help and anything i can do. he isnt an emotional sort and keeps stuff to himself really and would never show emotions as really dont think he has any......

[123everton]

Wishing aint gonna solve anything! Truth is he's got 1 child now and another on the way.
If he was a mate of mine saying this to me in the pub I'd tell him straight "you're an adult, cope!"
I've got no sympathy for him, he needs to grow up!
FAST!

[HJT40]

I picked up on the comments that he doesn't feel like a good dad and wonder if this could be a very important statement. It is difficult because you don't say how old you are and people mature at different ages.

Little people aren't very good at telling you if you are good at being a mum or dad, but he should be able to tell if your other child is pleased to see him. One is very young for any real confirmation to an adult! Can you reassure him, by commenting on how your child smiles when he/she sees him or quietens down when he is cuddling them. Praise him for the little things he does.

He may just be scared because it has all happened so quickly, two babies in a short time. I am sure that he is not really wishing that he never met you! Be positive, which I know is difficult with hormones raging, but please try. He does have emotions, but just doesn't know how to show them.

Be strong and look forward to a happy future.