unreasonal man

[reception]

I have lived with a man for the last 30 years and I have hated my life. The good that came out of it was my kids. I stayed with him for so many reasons one being my kids. My daughter is getting married in couple of weeks and he left a note under the door to say" I made a mistake coming to her engagement I wont be their for her wedding you F�.g B�h and other bad words.. he is having an unaffair with someong who is 28 years old he is 60. I am keeping quiet until the wedding is over then I am leaving him at long last. Wish me luck

[winebuyer]

Good luck. He sounds horrid.

[burston]

You must have the patience of a saint. If youve coped so long with a relationship like that, Im sure you will do well when youre rid of him. Good riddance I say.
You have children to help you through this. Be brave and best wishes

[reception]

He is trouble thou. He willnot make this easier. he said whe would rather burn the house down then let me have it and I only want my half.
I am afarid of him. he is a devil.

[unhappychick]

The man is one thing and one thing only...a bully, dont fear his threats cos thats all they are, threats, before you make your move I would get in touch with the police and tell them what he has said etc, they can go and pay him a visit if you wish and warn him if he does any such act he will be arrested!

[hussy]

pity he dont have a bl00dy heart attack but...
you have to be strong and get out of this unhappy marriage because you only have 1 life so make the best of the time you have left and leave this bully to his own devises... when you are back on your feet you will wonder why you didn"t do it a long time ago.

best of luck to a happier future xx

[reception]

Thank you hussy Its been a long time 30 years. I stayed because of my childern they are all moveing out so there is no reason. One thing I will admit is that he is eveil and very crule and its his loss that he had a family wife and kids a nice house and he will now be alone and die alone. I will still have my family and one day grandchildern. My life will take me to the next level.
I am however little worried about the move its a very big step for me but I have to do it.

[mccfluff]

can i suggest you get some legal advice on the QT before you go ahead, that way you'll know exactly where you stand re the house etc etc,
good luck

[hussy]

hi reception just wanted to say i wish you all the luck in the world to leave this bully and have a fresh start... find out what true contentment really feels like!! you can do it babe just don"t look back and listen to bullsh1t .... you will no doubt struggle in the beginning but you will get there and just think you have the rest of your life in front of you without the old bu@@er dictating to you.

love hussy
xxx

[hussy]

yes i know i have spoke to you before but i was just thinking about you and hoping you were doing ok. xxx

[reception]

hussy thats the problem I dont have whole life I am 50!!!!
I spent 30 with him. ha ha my life will be a hard either way. good years are gone. I wish i could do something usefull for someone in this world so I know my worth. at the moment i dont, my house is a mess. broken and in bad condition i cat repair it i have no money and no man power. i have struggled to bring up two kids for the last 28 years. I am still struggling. with them. i have no real friend or family i have nothing or no one apart from the 2 kids whom i love. ( they are his) i have not had any other man in my life. or any kind of real companionship, i have been abused by my husbends family, and I have lived through it and made to 50! hurray for human race. what made this all possible? I did.

[hussy]

im really sorry to hear you so down reception xxx
i know your not a spring chicken but hey your 50 its not the end yet hun you still can meet people now you have the chance when you get shot of him and start to enjoy other peoples company again. its amazing how different your life will take a turn when you start to feel happy and not trapped any longer. he has dragged you down for so long you think your life is over...... girl your life will just be starting and with age brings maturity so you will not meet somebody the same as your ex. hope your health is alright and if so then you can get your children to help and decorate the house so it makes you feel better in yourself thats if you aren\"t the one to leave the family home? the only person that can change your life is you reception then the rest will follow.... love huss xx

[figure]

Reception - in a case like yours, it's never to late to start over. Try joining a woman's group or your local Y. That might just be the beginning for your new life. Once you make an effort and get out and get going your life will change. You also have to make changes in your way of thinking.
Best wishes and good luck. x

[reception]

figure I am a memebr of a gym. I work out almost 3 times a week, i have a very good job. I get asked out a lot more then an average woman of my age should. but all this is for nothing when you are feeling like shllt.

[hussy]

just listen to the words you just said and you will realize you have lots in your life to help you move on. there are lots of people out there that don"t have no one and they are destitute you have more than some people so use this and start afresh you have an income coming in and hey you still attrack the opposite so go for it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

[figure]

You have to change your way of thinking, think about you for a change and start indulging in nice things for yourself. Start living a little, one step at a time. Eventually one day you will wake up feeling all brave and less submissive. You are the only one can make yourself feel worthy, your are responsible for yourself. Remember no one is obligated to you but you.

[reception]

you are all very right I have more then some people. I have food on my table and i have 2 lovely kids. Its for them I should make a break. I owe it to them i gave them a horrible life for all those years they too put up with this man. now its time to put things right. by me and them.

wish me luck

[Marijn]

Good luck! I was really surprised that you think 50 is old. 50 is young these days. You could have 30/40/50 years ahead of you. Have a great future!

[Velvetee]

God, he must have something going on to be able to pull a 28 year old.

But seriously. You have wasted half of your life with this man and you must be of the realisation that, without wanting to sound morbid, you are coming towards the end of your life. (assuming you are around 60 too). It's great you are now thinking about your own happiness and fulfilment.

It will be difficult making a go of things on your own, as you probably still have some kind of emotional tie to your partner, regardless of how badly you think of him. I sincerely hope you do go through with your plan after your daughter's wedding. You deserve so much more.

[wiserr]

Velvette I am 49 and will be 50 this year . an no I have no emotional ties to this man. I never loved him and selceted him to be my husband. or my life partner. he was forced upon my when I was 19. I had not been been any one else before or since. and yes in this day and age this still happens. I have great fear of him he is trouble even at a grand old age of nearly 60. he hates me and my kids. he wishes i would die but I won't i have not lived yet. he will never leave me he wants the house. its half mine. i won't just give it to him. I have worked all my life. never been on benefits of any kind. I have survived the battle but the war I am not so sure about. My biggest fear is that none of this will happen for me and I will just fade away like a candle in the wind..... I am a strong woman I have lived by the law of the land and been very successful but emotionaly I have no bearring to which direction I am going. I hope this all makes sence. I am one of the millions of women who'e soul is sold to the devil all in the names of relegion and family. We never love any one we just live until..