Love my son but hate his female friend!!!

[puddicat]

Dont want to go into to much detail but my son is back with the girl that broke his heart!!!!!!

[abstract]

keep out of it,maybe it'll end maybe she'll cheat on him maybe they''ll have kids get married and grow old together,dont keep on at him about the woman as he might start avoiding/resenting you!

[puddicat]

Old news abstract i know that, i am giving him his private life though i could say more, now alot older, she hates me, but i dont care,she is one nutty female,will keep quiet, dont ask me too get on with her cos i cant, she hated the relationship we had, and i know she will try and destroy it,cant be bothered fighting anymore!!!!!

[Sachs]

Hi puddi - You are powerless to fight against his emotions. He knows your feelings no doubt. It's painful, but all you can do is let him make his own decision/ mistakes. Do you think it possible she may have changed now? I went out with a lad that lived on the edge, he took me to new experiences I would rather have not gone through, but you do eventually reach a final line where you decide enoughs enough. He can only do that for himself. It's painful to watch on the side line. I understand what my parents went through on reflection xxx

[abstract]

well if she's that much of a bitch,you can only hope that it fizzles out and he gets someone better that you love!

[puddicat]

No i dont think she will change would love to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she has had to ring my landline number for some reason and the venom was still there!!!!

[puddicat]

no not like that if it was me i would have said i am sorry that i caused you hurt but i am older now,and for that i would admire,she had a abortion when she was 15 with my grandchild couldnt stand going through that again

[tigwig]

As others have said, you are right to leave well alone! I can remember dating a boy when I was 16 for nearly 2 years. My family didn't like him at all, he was from quite a rough family, his mum was a scrubber from hell and kept phoning my mun up to tell her what we were getting up to and consequently I was told several times a week to finish with him. I took no notice and can honestly say I only stayed with him to defy my parents! I knew I wouldn't end up marrying him I just had nothing else to do! Not saying this is the same in your situation but it is worth thinking about.

[puddicat]

thanks tigwig but not a scrubbers family but the income they generate is a bit suspect!!!

[lil75]

She had an abortion at 15, you must remember that it was your son who made the child as well, not just her...I can understand how your feeling if a lot of bad words have exchanged lips, but maybe you should front her out, and say that you would like to put the past behind you and move on...even if through gritted teeth. Your son will be grateful and you will keep him on side, should she bad mouth you...good luck!

[puddicat]

Sorry l wont front her out just leave it!!!!!

[puddicat]

lil i wanted my grand child her mother decided otherwise

[puddicat]

Sorry the childs grandmother and the mother

[pinktwink]

i agree stay well out of it.Your son has to make his own decisions in life. Part of being a mother is allowing your adult children to live their own lives. Otherwise you will be the one that suffers as they distance themselves from you. Nobody is asking you to like her or what she does but if you care about your son and want a future relationship with him you need to get to a place where you can respect her and be civil. Getting at your son over it will only drive a wedge between yee both

[bednobs]

you clearly have an agenda. i don't know what happened, but being pregnant at 15 is scary, and if you let your feelings about the abortion show to her in the way you are showing them on here, tbh it's no wonder she feels venemous towards you. At 15 she probably needed support, but also to make her own decisions about the termination. In my opinion, her decsion on whether or not to become a mum should take higher preceedence over you wanting a grandchild or not.

she may have broken his heart before, but i assure you, relationships break down for all sorts of reasons, not usually limited to 1 person. Maybe it wasn;t rigjt then but it is right now?

also, there is nothing saying you will "have to go through" another abortion. perhaps again the timing might be right for them to start a family. if that is the case, it might be better for you to be the bigger person and make it up with her because if they do stay together and start a family it will be nice for you to be involved, rather than ostracized

[daisycup]

I have to agree with bednobs on this one.