Bad timing!

[kitten_uk2]

hi im not sure if this is correct place to put this question but wanted someone elses oppinion. my birthday is coming up (monday) and ive struggled to swop and change mine and my husbands work shifts so we can go out for the evening. we have looked forward to this for ages as we dont get much time together with both working and a kid aswell. but thats not the problem. my dad gets his hospital results on the same day and it looks like it will be bad news( hes lost his speech). i dont want to sound selfish. i just dont know when is the right time to hear the news. i wanted a happy birthday, not to be crying in my soup. should i hear the news straight away, after all he is my dad, and we are all worried about him. or should i enjoy my birthday meal before finding out. x

[squarebear]

You will only be anxious while you are having your meal, so I personally, would want to hear the results beforehand.

[blackcat77]

It's obviously going to be on your mind so I would probably want to know sooner rather than later - then once you know try and push it to the back of your mind for a few hours and enjoy the time out with your husband - I feel sure that your father would want you to enjoy your birthday!

[daffy654]

It seems a very selfish thing to wait for the results,you have a birthday every year and wll probably have many,many more to celebrate.Your dad may need your support.Put your own feelings aside and be there for your dad.