ive read the notes and people comments,
i dont see why you should HAVE to move,
Aniani......... its easy to say if you love your wife you would move, works both ways tho if she loved you she wouldnt ask him to!
i think in situations like this its a real shame, i dont actually think you can stop her, but it is unfair on the kids as she will be uprouting them from school/friends/their home, i think you should talk it through, maybe she thinks you will give in and move and thats why she is using the kids as a weapon
good luck, ( do the kids want to move?)