My sister is 11 years older than me and we've not seen each other or been in touch for 18 years, she has never seen 2 of my 5 children or my 2 grand daughters, our parents split up 22 years ago and she stayed with dad I went with mum,. She phoned me once to tell me to get mum not to claim more money from dad or her (sister) would end up in a council house. Put the phone down on her (we were living in council and proud of it). So that was the end of that one.
Not seen or been in touch with dad, did write to him to say I understood how he couldn't live with mum (neither could I) haven't heard a world from him for 18 years.
Not good with my family, their loss,
I'm happy with hubby and kids, they may not always get on, but they rally round when needed. For that I'm proud of.