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[liverpoolfc1]

my son & i were very close then he met this girl they have a 6mth old boy i love him 2 bits but shes stopping me from seeing him i have done nothink wrong she likes 2 get her own way shes even turned my son against me.hes the only son i have. i have no more kids & she nos that.wat can i do any idears.x

[pinktwink]

be patient and pleasant to her . Invite them all round for family dinner. Or drop by theirs with flowers. ?

[ELVIS68]

Have to disagree with pinktwink...call your son first..ask him what`s going on before you invite them round for dinner

[Ice.Maiden]

Yes Elvis, but then her son's loyalties might be torn. I have to agree with pink. I'd invite them all round, and be as friendly as possible. If the invitation's refused, THEN, have a word with the son - or even the gf - and ask what's wrong.
Keep in touch with them liverpoolfc1. If you start any arguments, you're less likely to win the girl round. Best of luck.

[ELVIS68]

Yes, liverpoolfc1, I agree with pinktwink and Ice Maiden

WTF do I know?

[pinktwink]

elvis its fine to disagree different solutions work for different people. As we do not know the circumstances of the rift its hard to know the right answer. It is always good to have a number of different options xx

[yinyang]

I'm not trying to be nasty but I've been the daughter in law in this situation. Your post is exactly the type of thing my husbands mother would say and in our case it was far, far removed from the whole truth.
My mother in law was also extremly close to her son and found it very difficult to deal with no longer being ' number 1'. She played us off one another, came up with ridiculous excuses and fake illnesses to prevent him from leaving the house to see me, even telling his little sister that he didn't care about them any more now he had me.
When it all came to a head he decided he wanted nothing more to do with her.His decision and one that I'd actually talked him out of making a few times before; but guess who she blamed? went around telling everybody that she'd only ever acted for the best and I'd turned her son against him - conveniently missing out all the lies she told.
Obviously I have no idea of your situation and am not saying this is your fault. All I'm asking is have a little think about whether you do feel any jealousy about your son being close to this girl or may have undermined her.were you respectful of the ways she wanted things done with the baby or did you try to impose your way?
I'm sorry if I sound harsh or if you genuinely are the totally innocent party in this.I hope it all works out for you.

[k8bailey]

Hi Liverpool, I think maybe you should have a chat with both of them, you may not think you have done anything wrong, but you may have done or said something without knowing, I don't get on well with my MIL because she says things about my child which annoy me, ans thinks she is welcome to visit every weekend, and other things, as a result I now hate spending time with her! I am not brave enough to tell my MIL what she is doing wrong, but would if she asked. - I would LOVE for her to ask me, because I want this all sorted out.

Your son's GF may not be trying to turn him against you, but he loves her, and with a child involved he is quite rightly siding with her, they are a family now.

[liverpoolfc1]

thax 4 all ur answers.but all i wnt is 4 my son 2 b happyy.im not jealouse of his g/f.she treats him like crap.if she treated him better i wud b so happy 4 them i no he has 2 lead his own life.an no its not me.im only 39 i shouldnt b goin through this.i dnt wnt my grandson goin throgh it 2 hes the 1 i feel sorry 4.x

[k8bailey]

You're looking at it from the outside, many relationships are totally different in private - I know mine is!

Your son has to make his own mistakes, and won't thank you for getting involved. The best thing you can do is, keep making the effort, also I really do suggest you talk to both of them about feeling pushed out of their life, maybe they're unaware that you feel like this,and maybe you have accidentally done something to annoy his GF. Better to try and get this sorted out while the child is young, I'm sure you wouln't want him growing up knowing you don't get on with his mum.