ADVICE-hubby had affair & child!

[XmandyX]

Advice...hubby had an affair and a child with someone..over 5yrs ago now.we are bk 2gether and had another child so 2 now,but the bitch makes it hard for hubby to see his child...wants him over her house or go out to a restaurant...he went to court....but in the end nothing really come of it...his child has met our children lots and comes over sometimes...but she is soo jealous we are together...and constantly texts and ring hubby for stupied reasons....i know he would never go there again....but she really bugs me and i can't really say anything to her,coz she will stop my hubby seeing his child...i so want revenge..and im planning on doing something,

[redcrx]

ooh yes, revenge would be an excellent way of showing your husband and the other child how you are rising above it all

[zzxxee]

dont do anything rash !!! i can sympathise however i suggest you get a solicitor that deals with family law and take it back to court for better access arrangments
make sure he is up to date with maintenance payments and good luck

[bookbinder]

Revenge is a dish that is best served cold. Wait a bit. Pretend that all is well. Then - wham!

[Androcles]

Is revenge really a good idea? It may make you feel better, but think of the damage it could do to your relationship with your husband, your children if you and he fall out over it, not to mention the difficulties for him seeing the other child in what is already a very difficult situation. I think a little moral superiority on your account may be better - rise above her silly games, show parental behaviour instead of descending to the childish - I'm sure you husband will think more of you and be grateful you are being adult and part of any solution than being yet another problem....

[cazzz1975]

the best revenge is to have a happy life, although I wouldnt take someone back if he had cheated on me but I dont know the full story so I am not trying to be judgemental.

[XmandyX]

...i have been waiting for many years...so now the time has come...payback for the bitch!!

[Androcles]

Oh Dear! Please think again before you do anything rash, however mad you feel!

[bookbinder]

genital, you don't really expect XmandyX to reveal her plans here, in full public view, do you? That other woman might just be looking!

[bobjugs12]

Be careful. I got a limited form of revenge on my ex, but it ended up with me being arrested and recieving a Police Caution.

That act of revenge has left me with a criminal record, and dented my chances in the Police.

[smudge]

Revenge - it really isn't worth it mandy, however angry you are about this 'other woman'.

I'm sure any action you take will backfire on you.

P.S. You say: "....i know he would never go there again....", but how can you be so sure?!

[grasscarp]

Mandy I would not advise you to do anything at all. If you want to keep your husband you have to be behave properly. There are children involved. You took your husband back and now in her eyes you have everything she wants. Revenge is not necessary. Just try to accept life for the cards that you have and concentrate on other things and not be wound up by this woman's cries for attention.

[smudge]

bobugs post wasn't there as I typed - but that's precisely the sort of thing I was talking about Mandy!

Let karma do its best.....

[cazzz1975]

your husband created this mess mandy, not the other woman, jealous or not when he went off and had a kid with her he probably told her he loved her and wanted her, she is as much a victim as you.

[smudge]

*bobjugs not bobugs!

[paross]

Your husband should not be answering calls or texts to this woman. That is encouraging her. He SHOULD be seeing a solicitor! Whatever you would like to do to her will backfire, I guarantee. Don't go there!!

[smudge]

Backfire - that's what I said paross. I only hope Mandy will listen to common sense!