Elderly neighbour (if youve got time to read it)

[TheOtherHalf]

We have a lovely elderly neighbour who lost her husband 2 years ago. Weve been friends for about 30 years. I used to help in the guest house they had, and when they sold up they moved into the house next door to us which was lovely. They always were a bit mean with money though but we laughed about it because they were such characters. Since her husband died, we ve helped out as much as possible, mowing the lawns, fetching and carrying shopping even though it was difficult at times as we both work full time but shes recently started making comments about how well off we must be with both working (even though we re definitely not !) but she is as she even thought about buying a small flat without having to sell her house and possibly renting it off. She asks me to fetch her milk every week which is a ton weight on top of my own shopping, just to save her about 30p per bottle. She doesnt have to carry it from the supermarket as she can get the Dial a Ride bus, but will not pay 30p extra to get her milk but has a coffee whilst waiting for the bus to pick her up and nicks a few milk portions and sugars.
We ve bitten our lip quite a few times as we didnt want to fall out with her but last weekend my hubby had a blow out with her whilst she was making these comments. Shes already lost one friend because off her forever thinking everyone else is better off than her and now my hubby and myself cant bring ourselves to even talk to her which is a shame. I dont know what to do about it as I see her around the garden much than he does. I want to make up but feel the problem will still be there.
I see if anyone has any suggestions before I go on anymore. Sorry for rambling so much

[TheOtherHalf]

Ive been away for the weekend. We didnt even tell her we were going away which I felt awful about but Ive seen her a few times since we got back, just to say hello to and polite conversation. I think she definitely knows shes upset us and if she asks outright I will tell her like it is. I do intend to mention something to the sons if and when I see them.
Thanks for all your help everyone

[whiskeryron]

Don't wait for her to ask you ''what's up'' you are concerned about the different role you are having to play. Grasp the opportunity to tackle her about your grievances, you'll all be better off once you have cleared the air.

WR.