ChatterBank0 min ago
Is he taking cannabis?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.How old is the son? If he is in adolesence then that would probably go along way to explain his behaviour (with all those hormones raging about). In my experience of people taking cannabis (almost all the lads I knew as a teenager!) it very rarely makes them angry - quite the opposite in fact. Are there any other things that make the Dad suspect he is smoking cannabis (red eyes, eating lots? etc). I would suggest the Dad has a quiet word with his son's teachers to see what he is like at school and whether there could be any other factors. It is a very difficult situation and I don't think there is any right way to deal with rebellious teenagers. It sounds like his son is trying to establish his individuality and independance, and unfortunately the parents are the ones that get it in the neck! I was fairly vile as a teenager and my mum left me get a lot out of my system, as she always made it clear she trusted me and that whatever I did she would be there for me.
I wish him luck.
I agree with the previous posts, I, too, was a monster of a teenager, although I have never raised a hand to either of my parents, with the things I used to get up to I might as well have.
When your friend got into a 'fisticuffs' situation with his son this morning, had your friend accused him of using drugs? Because that would make me very angry if I wasn't taking any.
I would also agree, that canabis generally sends you the other way, is his sons tired often? I mean, it has a pretty distinctive smell too (so I've heard!). If your friend is sure he is using recreational drugs, I think it sounds like it could be something more chemical than herbal if you catch my drift.
As a teenager, what would have done me the world of good, and stopped a lot of aggro between me and my mum, would have been knowing that I could talk to her about anything and that she wouldn't fly off the handle. Also, being given some responsibilty and being able to prove myself, i.e. later nights out, drinks at the weekend, etc. Teenagers will do these things anyhow, and if I had been allowed to do more I wouldn't have felt like I had to hide things from her.
Ask your friend to trust his son, to believe in his son and let his son know that he is there for him.
Hope that all made sense it went a bit rambly!