how can it happen part 2

[emdeja]

Like my 1st question said, ive been on the pill for several years and had a miscarriage in november, now im pregnant again, ive yet to tell my partner, i have been taking my pill around the same time every day give or take 1/2 an hour. Could my hormones being so up and down since november be an issue? how often does this happen. Im in desperation as I dont want my partner to think this is a set up, as it's not. I didnt want a family yet and it's happened twice in six months, please can someone help me.

[5029]

Why not make an appointment with your dr or a well woman clinic or family planning clinic and discuss your worries with them?

[buchanan]

Bl**dy hell you're fertile - maybe its as simple as that but you poor thing feeling desperate and isolated.  Thing is, don't go through this on your own or feel guilty.  Its happened, our bodies can do strange things to us with a very wierd sense of timing.  Don't store it up - you'll go nuts, sit him down and tell him as calmly as you can whats happened then work through it together - you honestly don't need an explanation or any sort of "excuse" right now.  I'm sure the "why and how" will come out at some point.  Good thoughts going out to you - hope it all goes the way you want it to.

[FatCharlie]

I think you should tell your partner ASAP, if he finds out by chance he's more likely to think it is a set up.  Wait until after you've seen your doctor to get info. on why the pill you're taking hasn't worked you, if you prefer.  Good luck.

[rachaelersk]

if you have been taking the pill on time etc thats ok but other things that can have an effect are an upset tummy can make the pill work innefectively and so you should use other protection for the next 7 days. This was advice i got from my doctor as i got pregnant whilst on the pill and the only thing i didnt know about was if you have a dodgy tummy or are sick, or if you have been on any medication this can affect it too. My son has just celebrated his eighth birthday and i had only known my partner one year when i got pregnant on the pill, we have since then been married for 6 years and have another child who just turned one. So it can all work out. just talk to the doctor and then talk to your partner. I hope that it all works out well for you. Good Luck.

[flaming]

Just seen the question.  I wonder how you got on, if you have done anything yet, that is.  The temptation is to let things go on because the 'right time' never seems to be the right time.  I just wanted to sympathise and remind you that blokes leave it to the women.  It's not fair.  They don't have to remember day in day out and take a pill and bear the risks associated with taking the same hormonal drug year after year. He is just as responsible.  And he's very lucky to get unprotected coupling as I gather it's a bit thin on the ground these days.  What about him having a vasectomy?  It is reversible.  Your GP should be able to advise, or send you to a specialist, but I would guess your body hadn't really recovered after the last 'do'.  It used to be  known that people could get preggers easily after a pregnancy unless the mother was breastfeeding, which is why some mums prolonged this beyond the time they needed to.  That could have been an old wives'tale but I expect there was some truth somewhere - they would have had to take notice of causes and effects in those days.  Don't feel guilty.  Anyone who knows and cares about you should realise that you didn't deliberately do such a thing.