What time is bedtime for a 9yr old?

[Eeeek]

Hi everyone, my cousin turned 9 a week ago and is coming to stay with me tonight. Any ideas what time I should be putting him to bed?

[baggins]

I have a nine year old daughter, and bedtime depends on what we are doing and if she has school the next day. If she is at school, i like her to be in bed for  bet 8pm and 8.30pm. Holiday time is more flexible.It might be a good idea to ask his parent(s) what time they advise to put him to bed.  Most of all, enjoy having him to stay. It should be fun.

[Eeeek]

His mum is in hospital which is why he is coming to stay! I was thinking 8pm since I need him up by 7am to get ready for school (we live the other side of town to him). Thanks a lot.

[baggins]

Eeeek - that time should be fine. Perhaps be a little prepared for the fact he may be a little unsettled ( due to his mum being in hospital) so, if you know his bedtime routine, it might be a good idea to try and stay along those lines. My daughter loves to have a bath and then to have a bedtime story before she goes to sleep. She also like to have a side light on, and then i go and switch it off when she is asleep.  If i have any of her friends to sleep over, i also leave the landing light on, and the door open - just in case they wake in the night and are disorientated. ( hope your cousin's mum gets better soon )

[smudge]

I would say 8:00pm at the latest, he could then lay in bed having a read until he drops off to sleep & I bet that wouldn't be too long.

[Clare A]

It never ceases to amaze me how people on this board are so helpful, informative, resourceful, and just - well - nice! I feel I could ask anything and I'd receive a well-informed and/or sympathetic answer. That's the beauty of it...

[Eeeek]

I agree Clare A and thats why I knew I could ask for genuine advice!

Thanks a lot everyone, in the end we agreed 8.30 and he went to bed no problem at all

[Dom Tuk]

In our house it is right after eastenders. No ifs and buts.

[ianess]

I agree that the 9-year old should be in bed for 9pm, with allowances for school holidays and weekends etcetera.  I'd also suggest that there should be a period of "wind-down" time before bed-time. Expect a bit of opposition because some kids are still out and about at 10pm, but try to be consistent.