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Parents How Do You Put A Sleep Fighter To Bed?
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Friends child needs a sling to be rocked to sleep...then once she's asleep? You literally need to sit down and hold her for 2 hours so she sleeps. Any movements such as trying to put her in her bed...even in her sling she will cry and refuses to sleep. Friend won't leave the child to cry to sleep so please don't advise this as thst won't work. Trying to help her get this child to bed! She sleeps ok in her basket at night for some strange reason.
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Your friend is out of options then. The child has learned that making a fuss gets attention, reinforcing that will make for actual problems as years go by.
Close the door and tough it out, we've all been there.
Your friend is out of options then. The child has learned that making a fuss gets attention, reinforcing that will make for actual problems as years go by.
Close the door and tough it out, we've all been there.
"Friend won't leave the child to cry to sleep so please don't advise this as thst won't work."
There's the first problem. A parent who is too soft to act like a parent should will cause problems both for themselves and their child. Is she is unprepared to tell the child that she is not putting up with her attention seeking and must learn to go to sleep like a good girl then there is no reasonable answer. The problem remains until the child grows out of it, or until her mum can stand not more and goers berserk. It is untrue it won't work. It is true that if the parent just keeps cracking and going in then it hasn't a chance of working. The parent is in charge (or should be, obviously not in this case) and needs to be firm.
As an aside what's she doing with a sling and not a bed anyway ? Get all sorted out in one fell swoop.
And what's this basket ? A dog basket ? A shopping basket ? I'm not saying it ought not be used but it seems to be giving the child the idea that they get whatever they want and hasn't helped.
Tell the mother to buck up and act like a parent. Decide how bedtime is going to be, insist on it being that way, and don't give in just because it's uncomfortable hearing one's child unhappy. Giving in is a grandparent's prerogative, not a parents.
There's the first problem. A parent who is too soft to act like a parent should will cause problems both for themselves and their child. Is she is unprepared to tell the child that she is not putting up with her attention seeking and must learn to go to sleep like a good girl then there is no reasonable answer. The problem remains until the child grows out of it, or until her mum can stand not more and goers berserk. It is untrue it won't work. It is true that if the parent just keeps cracking and going in then it hasn't a chance of working. The parent is in charge (or should be, obviously not in this case) and needs to be firm.
As an aside what's she doing with a sling and not a bed anyway ? Get all sorted out in one fell swoop.
And what's this basket ? A dog basket ? A shopping basket ? I'm not saying it ought not be used but it seems to be giving the child the idea that they get whatever they want and hasn't helped.
Tell the mother to buck up and act like a parent. Decide how bedtime is going to be, insist on it being that way, and don't give in just because it's uncomfortable hearing one's child unhappy. Giving in is a grandparent's prerogative, not a parents.
Hi, my daughter's baby girl was a nightmare to get to sleep too. My poor daughter didn't sleep properly for over a year. She was advised by another young mother to let her cry for a few minutes, then go in just to reassure her for a minute or two. Then leave the bedroom. When crying starts again, leave it a bit longer each time. My daughter tried this for a week and eventually granddaughter got the message. So it does work. Hope this helps. Your friend needs to toughen up a bit and persevere. All the very best.
Ever watched those Supernanny TV series when there is a kid playing up at bedtime ? Their solution was always to have firm rules, insist on them and let them play up until they learn it isn't producing the desired result. The moment the parent cracks and goes in to them, that's ruined it and they had to start again next night.
It's not like the child has anything really wrong that they need sorting, they're just manipulating the parents in order to get the attention they've got used to having on demand.
It's not nasty, it's tough love.
It's not like the child has anything really wrong that they need sorting, they're just manipulating the parents in order to get the attention they've got used to having on demand.
It's not nasty, it's tough love.
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