behavior problem

[pattys]

my son is 7 yrs old and very smart, he is advanced in his class and is reading 3rd grade level. why does he have a problem behaving at home and having respect for me when at school he is so well behaved.

[Iz66]

i have an 8yr old boy, he is doing well at school and is liked by the teachers, very polite and curtious etc.....once he is home he turns into this possessed being, answers back and no respect at all! He drives me to dispair sometimes. Saying that on the whole he is a good boy, he knows to behave around people, and he isnt rude or selfish.

I beleive this is normal behaviour of this age ground, they are learning the boundries and seeing how much they can get away with. its all part of the learning curve, like it or not.

My 8 yr old is off school today and is lying on sofa watching telly and i wouldnt know he is there....one sure sign i know he isnt 100%!!!! :o)

[Drusilla]

I think he's testing his boundaries and home is the safest place to do this. He knows he can misbehave and act out, but always retain your love and affection.

I think you need to insist on your own boundaries regarding his behaviour, but accept they may need to be loosened slighty. This is his first major step towards becoming a more independent little boy.

[sunflower68]

pattys and Iz66 my 7 year old is the same to a T!! He dreads stepping out of line at school; he seems to revel in it at home. I feel sad that the rudeness he shows must have come from certain kids at school. Maybe though it is just his age. It's a relief to hear I am not alone pattys. Sorry I cannot help, only empathise! x

[pauline lee]

I had exactly the same problem with my son. In the end I called in the Health Visitor who tested him and pronounced that he was bored at school because he was very intelligent. They get bored at school but behave there and take it out on us poor mothers.....

I used to be told by teachers that he was a pleasure to teach and by shopkeepers that he was a pleasure to serve.

Bear with it - my son is 24 now and in the RAF and doing very well. It is difficult living with a little brainbox. My son had guitar lessons which gave him something else to do at home and also went to Karate. This got rid of the surplus energy and gave him another interest.

Good luck.

[vicalncraig]

hi my 7 year old son is the same, at school they have structure and this help with learning, at home they feel safe and test how far they can push it, set rules that are not out of reach for him and see how it goes. best of luck and be firm

vicalncraig

[sense4all]

Seven is a very testing age for a child they have usually outgrown cute, but do not enjoy many of the benefits of the bigger children.A lot of acting up is just frustration, bear with it. I would rather my child was naughty at home as they are not getting 'a name ' for themselves at school this way. Draw the line and always stick to your guns with regard to basic good manners!

[sunflower68]

Paulinelee I had to chuckle at your thread. My son has been going to karate a few years;. yesterday I told him he wouldn't be going because he had been silly, jumping around at his great grandma's house. Can't win can I ?

[lynneuk74]

I'm now 31 but remember, every time I got a report from school, my Mum always used to ask if they were talking about the same person!!!

I guess I was totally rebellious at home and very disobedient - with a very redheaded temper!! At school I was a total angel.

I was terrified of getting into trouble at school - the scary thing nowadays is that many kids have absolutely no 'fear' about playing up at school. They know the teacher can't do anything...

So, be thankful he is so well behaved in public and I'm sure that (like me) you'll have a great relationship when he grow's up. My parents and I are now so close....just bear with it.