Help i need advise!

[Alexmeads]

im 23 she is 21, she had a bad birth and almost died, She said that she wanted nothing to do with me straight away but changed her mind just after christmas. She came around with some pictures to show me and we chated and sorted a time for me to see her, a couple of days before i tried to get hold of her to to see what time she was going as i needed a lift and no way of getting there. Now she wont even answer my calls or reply to any messages

[Lonnie]

She's probably a very nice girl, but it sounds as if she's using the bad birth as an excuse, I may sound a bit hard, but she wouldn't have remembered anything about it, except what she was told, of course, there may have been aftereffects which may have required further treatment, but I doubt that any of that has an affect on her traetment of you, unless, because of her past, she is possibly looking at an early life expectancy, but you won;t know the real reason unless you ask, if she's not returning calls or texts, maybe you could call on her house. I think its either that, or move on. but good luck whichever you decide.

[patiodors]

Alex, is it possible that you can talk to her parents (or even close friends?) and ask them to help you to get in contact? Assure them that your intentions are for the best possible reasons and that you would like to be helpful to your ex girlfirend and a good parent to your baby? Sometimes this can be difficult if there is any history of bad feeling between you and her parents but also sometimes they can be very sympathetic too. My son had problems like this with his ex girlfriend, but unfortunately her mother wouldn't help. Sadly his baby died and he never got more than a photo.

Try to ensure everyone of your best intentions, and try not to be too pushy or desperate sounding even if you feel that way. A softly softly approach is the advice I would give you. I wish I could help more on this, as I say, I know what my son went thru. Don't give up.

[noxlumos]

If she was alone when she gave birth apart from hospital staff even if she told you she didn't want you to be there she's likely to be hugely traumatised. A difficult birth is a terrible thing for a girl to go through when all of their expectations are very different.Send her a letter, explain that you really want to see her and are woried about her and that you also really want to see this wonderful little child that she's just had. As Patiodors says, be non confrontational and just tell her that you are there for her and if you can afford it send her some money for herself and the baby even if it's only a fiver, as a gesture that you are taking your responsibilites seriously.she sounds confused and as if she just needs time to be honest, just tread gently and I hope she'll come round.