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It may just be that your daughter is going through the change in her life which happens at that age. Everything is changing around her, her family, her body etc.
Its a tough period in any girls life and she may just feel insecure now that there is a baby and family in your life. Try and talk to her alone, without your other child and help her to see that she is still an important part of your life and special to you.
Im not saying that you are doing anything wrong, but just remember that children dont see things the way that adults do. And making the jump to being an adolescant is a difficult time
My advice is to just always be there for your eldest daughter and my guess is that she will come round when she grows up a bit! You can't stop the things her mum says to her, but you can make her realise that her dad has always been there for her and has never slagged her mum off!
Be the bigger person and just be a father to your daughter, she will appreciate that more than anythign when she gets older!
If she is telling you things that her mother says then at least she is still communicating with you, thats a good sign. Dont rush her, just have some 1 on 1 time with her and get to know what she thinks and how she views life. Im sure once she realises that you still love her just as much as your second daughter then she will take less notice of her mums comments and start to make her own decisions.
Im sure it will work out fine if the issue isnt forced.
I think 12 is a difficult age, and it's not necessarily all her mother's doing.
You don't say what your relationship with your daughter was before the baby was born, but she probably feels jealous because the baby will be getting all the attention from you that she never had.
I would suggest, that you take your daughter out on her own for a few times, to make her see that she is still very important to you.
Maybe she'll come round to accepting the baby as times go by...