Stepchildren and access

[cheeky_teddy]

Over 3 years ago my OH separated from his ex and we met and got married. In that time we have seen very little of his 3 children now 18, 15 and 6. His ex wife put limitations on their visits and often said that he could see the children but not in my presence. Well time has gone on and the 18 year old contacted her dad and said could she come and see him for father's day. My children were going out and I said that I thought it would be a lovely idea if he took sometime to see her and take her for a meal. However it has transpired that he has now invited all three, they have accepted and because I am not there they are being allowed to spend the day with him.

Maybe I am being paranoid but the one thing we had agreed on as a couple was that she would not be allowed to impose these restrictions, it seems to me that she has won via the back door. Or as I say am I being paranoid?