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[curragh]

hi my daughter who is 13 recently met a boy on holiday to turkey, and hes 15. they had a great time, and she got his msn, but shes pining for him. how can i help her get over him?

[angeldraws]

Just let her talk about it as often as she feels the need and be understanding - don't rush her to get over it or let it irritate you when she talks about him (or the situation she finds herself in), and she will get over it in time. As you probably already know - teenagers don't really understand too well about time being a healer - everything has to be NOW. Also, try not to insist that its just a child hood fling, as these things are so important at 13.......and as a result of this, she will grow to trust her own feelings and thoughts thru' adolescence - like the Dorothy Holte piece -
If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn;
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight;
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy;
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty;
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient;
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence;
If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate;
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice;
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith;
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself;
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to
find love in the world.

Hope this helps.....

[curragh]

ok thanks

[IzzieQ]

curragh,

Speaking as someone who was once a 13 year old girl myself(!) and who 'fell in love with a boy' on a French exchange at that age...I think that she'll get over him naturally in time. I thought that my heart would break when we parted, but we drifted apart quite quickly. She'll meet new friends and fancy a different boy soon enough - all part of being a teenager.
I think that all you can do is wait and in the meantime, take her feelings seriously - don't tell her she's being 'silly' or whatever.