severe shyness at daycare

[4mom]

My daughter is 3 1/2 years old and has been at the same daycare/preschool since she's been 3 months old. She has not spoken to any student or teacher the entire time she's been there. She cries as well for no apparent reason. She is the youngest of 4 children, with 3 older brothers, and is far from socially inept in personal situations. How do I get her to come out her shell while at school?

[meltoadhall]

i find it hard to beleive that she has not said a single word to anyone for over 3 years. in that time she must have spoken to other children if not adults - I would double check with the staff there as if she is has been in full time care there for over 3 years, then where else would she learn to socialise?
do the daycare staff have any concerns?

[4mom]

to meltoadhall:

My daughter has not spoken-just to assure you. She is part time daycare; 2 days until Sept. of last year when I changed it to 2 1/2 days in hopes of her loosening up there. She socializes with her brothers, cousins, and with other small children at any of their sports events.Even at her brother's elementary school, she got up on stage with other toddlers prior to a holiday show and enjoyed playing. She had never met any of them until that moment. If I take her to the park, she intoduces me to other children she starts to play with. Her problem really seems to be limited to the daycare.

[pikzee]

Hi

Are you sure there's not a problem at the Day Care place then? Something that they haven't told you?

Is it possible for you to go to the Day Care Centre and peep through to see what is going on without the knowledge of the Staff?

I am not trying to imply that the Staff are mistreating your Child by the way but if your Child knows you are there then she will probably behave differently to if she didn't know you were there.

If as you say she is completely different out of Day Care and does socialise then like you say it is something to do with being there.

Hope this helps a bit.

[Cinnabon]

I think you should try throwing a kiddie party at home with her friends from day care.
You can then see how she reacts to the kids.
I think that she will be more relaxed and secure as she is in her own home.