emotional mummy

[FUZZYBEE]

Please tell me I am not the only Mum to dread my little girl staring school, she will be going to reception in sept.
Not because she doesn't want to go but I don't want her to go. She's my little mate and I will miss her terribly.
I was like this with my first one and she's 6 and even now I feel like saying "you can stay at home today" which i never really would do but the thought always crosses my mind. I know everyone loves their kids and I am not in the least over protective or molly coddle them but I just enjoy having them around(they can be little ******* mind you). I have just started myself off crying again because we wen't and bought her uniform at the weekend and she looks so sweet. Grown up but vulnerable at the same time. any other mums views gratefully accepted.
thanks

[Trinny]

Hi Fuzzybee, ahh, I know how you feel. I felt the same with all my children. Remember howling my eyes out, after dropping them off at school. Its a big step for her too, so try and make it a big positive thing for her.

Reception class is lovely. She will be fine. Honest. A big girl with all her friends. One of my children are moving to a huge comprehensive school in Sept, so I am worrying about him. Parenthood huh! Good luck xx

[FUZZYBEE]

thank you Trinny, yes I know it could be alot worse and she could be the one who doesn't want to go. I know what you mean about friends and I am very lucky she is the life and soul of nursery ( actually I think she's the ringleader) and she is so sociable. She will have a whale of a time, I meanwhile will just be wailing!! Thank you x

[Psychick]

Bless......still remember taking my daughter to school for her first day.......actually it isnt just the first day that gets to you! lol
Just keep llooking forward to being able to pick her up at the end of the day and hearing about all the exciting things she has done!
I am actually a dinner lady for the reception classes in the school my daughter goes to. Seeing all the new ones arrive each year even gets me going! They all look so young and sweet and innocent! Trust me fuzzybee, she will be well looked after and they will take very good care of her!
As for you.........be brave and dont cry til you get back home! lol

[Hellyon]

I hated it when my son (and only child) started school, he was my little mate too and I really missed him, still do sometimes and he's 9 and I work lol!
Tell yourself you are going to use the time constructively either at work or if you are lucky enough to be a stay at home Mum, get all the chores done, dinner prepared etc. and out of the way so that when she comes home she has your undivided attention.
On the first day some of the other Mum's and I got together for coffee and commiserated with each other. What ever you do try to hold it together while you drop her off !

[mumof3angels]

I remember taking my daughter for her 1st day ( she's 10 now) and she went off as soon as we got into her class and never even gave me a backward glance. I felt so awful that i wasn't 'wanted' anymore that I went home and bawled my eyes out. My son (who's now 6) clung to me everyday for 2 weeks crying and begging me not to go- which again made me go home and bawl my eyes out again. My 3 year old is now going to be starting nursery in September - however he reacts I know I'm going to have to have a box of tissues waiting for me at home! (However it will be nice to be able to get the housework done in the few hours he's there- and perhaps the odd cup of coffee in peace and quiet!!)

[yinyang]

I was just the same when my girls started Primary school last year. I gave up work when I had them. Looking after them was my job and i felt like i was being made redundant. They were only four and a half and because they're twins and my only children I went from a full house to a very empty one . :(
They were so excited though so I never let on to them how I felt and just kept making a big fuss of them.
They have loved their first year - holidays started on the 29th here in Scotland- and I've felt nothing but pride watching how they've come on. Every day the come home full of what they've learned and i love hearing about it and doing thier homework with them.
I still worry about them - are they getting on with their classmates; are they ok when they hurt themselves; are they eating all the nice lunch I made them or have they swapped it for chocolate?! I'm sure I'll still be asking myself these questions if and when they get to University - it's just what we mum's do.
At the moment because they;re with me all day everyday, I'm trying to fit in housework, part time job ( luckily I work from home ) and keeping them entertained while it pours outside. I know I'll miss them again when they go back to school but right now I'd kill for a couple of hours to myself.
IPromise you when the first day comes you won't be the only trembly lipped mum.
Buy yourself a little treat like a nice bar of chocolate and a new book for after taking your girl to school that first day and just try to relish the couple of hours peace before you need to pick her up again.
Take care.x

[FUZZYBEE]

Thank you all so much for your lovely answers, YIN YANG you have hit the nail on the head. I often wonder what goes through their little minds, do they ever want me? or feel sad during the day etc etc.
I think at the moment it is being made all the more difficult by my work . My hubby is a postman so he goes out very early but he's back at around 1 ish. Which means I start work in the local hospital from 1.30 till 6.00pm. That was working fab for us for the first 4 years because I had my mornings with my girls and then Daddy in the afternoon. Now however the homework, sports days, concerts etc have started I thought I would ask to change my hours to 9.30 till 2.30 or even 3.00 so that I have got the evenings with them but my work are not being very flexible and it's
really making me worry. If they refuse to let me change hours this means I drop my girls off at 9.00 and don't see them until 6.30, which is too long and as we like to eat as a family round the table they are eating late, bedtimes later and just generally trying to cram too much in and give them both the attention they need in a couple of hours. Sorry to moan and thank you for listening.

[yinyang]

I hope you manage to sort something out at work, fuzzybee.
Maybe you could work 2 or 3 full days then have a few days off.
Like i said, don't think we'll ever stop worrying abou tour kids but that's as it should be. Don't know what's worse, worrying that they miss us all day or realising that they're too busy having fun to give us a second thought!