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I am so sorry to hear you are having similar problems to me. I know how distressing it is, and like you, I wouldn't leave the house with her in case she needed fed. The only thing that eventually worked for us was laying her down on a mat & she seemed happier. I have been persevering with her & now after a lot of time, she has started taking most feeds being held with no fussing. Sometimes she still takes a couple of ounces then pushes the bottle away. If I put her down on the mat then she will take the rest quite happily. She never screams at all during feeds now. As soon as she starts to push the bottle away or get agitated I stop trying to feed her, put her down on the mat & change her or play with her for a few mins, then she will finish the bottle happily. She seems to like to take it at her own speed. I do wonder if the constant pressure from my HV to get her to take more milk had a lot to do with her problems & she got into the habit of screaming because she didn't want it. Even now she takes less formula than what she is "supposed" to, but she is happy with what she has & is gaining weight so I'm not concerned. The doctors did not do a blood test in the end, they said if she had a cows milk protein allergy then she would've had an improvement after going onto neocate almost straight away, which she didn't. She has now been back on normal formula for 3 weeks & is fine on it.
Is your baby on regular formula? If not, it may be worth seeing your Dr incase it is an intolerance. Is your baby happy in between feeds - is it just purely when you try to feed that the crying happens? My little girl was always very contented in between. Please let me know how things are going for you.