smothering

[candybox]

spending too much time with my child. Is there such a thing? Going on all the school field trips..... never letting him stay alone at a friends. Never letting him sleep anywhere but home. Not evern grandma's........

Am I smothering him?

[FP]

In one word 'Yes'.   If he's old enough to be at school and going on field trips then it's high time that you encourage him to stay with other people.  How will he ever gain any confidence?  Start with grandma and work from there.  Think how much he is missing out on by your reluctance to let him out of your sight. 

 

I am sure you must love him so very much, but loving him also means letting him develop and grow as a person.

 

 

 

 

[wonky]

My opinion is yes it does sound a little OTT, there is nothing wrong with showing your child love and affection or protecting your child BUT i think a child that has been shielded and 'smoothered' as much as described will only be shocked or hurt more when he realises what the 'real world' is like!!

 

I think the only way a child will learn is through good and bad experiences, i know it is hard to try and let go even a little bit!!

 

Out of interest how old is he?

xx

[georgit79]

Yes. He'll be living at home still when he's 40...sorry, but if you have to ask, you know you are smothering him. Let the poor boy live like a little boy!

[georgit79]

I know that sounds harsh, but after a while he'll start resenting you for it when his friends start taking the micky out of him.

[stoo_pid]

If it helps candybox, the advice that's been given here is as much for your benefit as your son's. If he starts to feel smothered or claustrophobic there's a VERY good chance that when he does find his independence in later life you won't get to see much of him...

[xxlizziexx]

im my opion yes you are being a little OTT. dont go on all school trips. go on say 1 out of 4. just cut down on it all. let him start sleeping at family members first then firends houses. let him have some freedom. he needs to make his own mistacks, he will learn from them. your not going to be there all his life no matter what you think so you need to let go of him a bit. im sure that he will like it aswel. hope this helps xx