baby wont sleep like the books say!

[pinkcowprint]

am i the only one whos child doesn't go to sleep nicely in their cot at 7.30 every night??or am i the only one to admit it?he is one year old and i do the same routine at night,play,bath,bottle,cuddle/book,bed.other night he did sleep in his cot from 7.45 through till 8am,night after ten oclock in our bed after screaming and tantruming from 7.30,there seems no pattern,ive tried cutting a nap,having a nap,controlled crying,or am i thinking too much into all this sleeping routine malarky,at the end of the day when he does go asleep he sleeps through til at least 7.30 every morning.

[sqad617]

!!!!!!!.

[pinkcowprint]

wot does that mean?

[sqad617]

pink..........you will get plenty of helpful answers and if I told you what !!!!!!! means, I will be in big trouble ..........again.

[pinkcowprint]

hmmm,yeah thanks for your input.

[sara3]

if you've read "the book" I'm sure you've checked the room temperature, that it's dark enough etc..

if he isn't unwell or needing anything, pick a routine and stick with it.

some people just have babies that don't sleep so well. don't get overly stressed about it, or he's won!

[sqad617]

pink....told you so......sara has given you good advice.

[mountainboo]

Unfortunately there are many babies who do not sleep well. Our son will go to sleep in his cot by 8pm but then will be in our bed by 2am and up at 6am. My niece on the other hand who is about the same age as our son (15 months), will go to sleep in her cot at 8pm and sleep through until 8am. I gave up worrying about it months ago, he will sleep through when he is ready. I have been told that some children don't sleep through until they start school. Some babies just don't need as much sleep as others.

As long as your baby has a good bedtime routine (which it sounds like he does) then the rest is pretty much down to him.
x

[tigwig]

My advice would be not to put the baby in bed with you if you don't really want him there.
This is easier said then done of course but carry on your good routine and stick with it whether he has a tantrum or not. If you give in and get him out of his bed and into yours then all you are teaching him is he will get his own way from screaming.
It sounds to me like he is playing you up big time especially as he is a good sleeper when he eventually gets to sleep. Babies need to be taught the skill of falling asleep on their own and resettling themselves if they wake up. You have to give him the chance to learn this however hard it will be at first. I bet after a few nights he will learn. Good luck.

[spudqueen]

Of course you're not the only one whos child doesn't go to sleep nicely at 7.30 every night!

My eldest son certainly didn't. In fact he never seemed to get a routine at all, and like mountainboo says, he didn't sleep through the night until he started school.
My younger son on the other hand slept through from 6 weeks old, which I suppose was a blessing as his older brother was still getting up in the night!

But knowing you are not the only one doesn't make it any easier to live with! I know with my elder son that at one point he went to bed when we did, between 10 and 11, he wouldn't then sleep through (well, only getting up once!) until about 7 or 8, but would then need a long nap in the afternoon, so just keep trying different things until you find something that suits your child and yourself, whether it's in the books or not!

Good luck!

[PringlesQueen]

Could I suggest you look at the Coffee House Chat on the Netmums website: http://www.netmums.com/coffeehouse/
You will be able to speak to lots of other mums who are in exactly the same situation as yourself.
You will find you will get sensible and helpful answers, rather than the unhelpful ones certain ABers choose to give.

[sara3]

unhelpful? most of us are helpful.

and not as rude.

or are you just advertising?

[PringlesQueen]

No sara3, I was trying to be tactful about one of the people who answered. I am sorry if you thought I was talking about you. My answer was poorly written.
I wish somebody had told me about Netmums sooner. I am not trying to advertise them as they are a non profit making company.

[warpig3]

PCP, if I had to go through it all again I would not read one book. All they did was fill my head with notions of how it should be, what you should do, what baby should do blah, blah, blah......................

Sometimes you can have too much information.

Thing is, is your baby happy, contented, fed, clean, loved etc? If yes, then you are doing fine. All babies are different. The piglet has never slept longer than 6 and a half hours in one go, ever. Initially I fretted about it because the books said........blah, blah, blah...................Then I said '**** the books', and havent looked backed. She still doesn't sleep like I would like her to sleep (like the book says) but hey ho, thats the way it is.

Best of luck.