It's such a huge responsibility, sometimes too much to even imagine, isn't it? The three younger siblings of my Mum's foster kids have been put up for adoption, two successfully, though the eldest's placement broke down after just a couple of months - she was about 7 by the time she was adopted and too 'set in her ways', plus she had a disability which may have hindered the situation. My Mum went through preparing her kids, goodbye parties and last, ever meetings, etc for what seems like months, only for JT to be back in foster care and contactable again! But the two babies' adoptions seem to have worked, and, I believe (I seem to recall being told this, but i'll check again to make sure) that letters and cards that fostered siblings want to send are kept for the adopted childen, and not given to them until they are 18!
There's a long way to go yet, and maybe when the Mum's other two children watch 'bump' growing, she may decide to keep baby herself.
Take care of yourself, I wish you and your family the very best of luck.
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