I cant stand kids am i weird???

[ilsonchick]

The thought of even considering having a child fills me with total dread! Im 24 and my partner nearly 28. He doesnt want kids just yet but i dont want them AT ALL! ive felt this way for ages now, when i see kids i just thing eugh not for me! Does that make me weird? I mean isnt every woman meant to get that "feeling" of being broody? I really seriously dont think it will ever happen...my mum told me you never come first anymore, infact nothing does (i am not selfish but What The Funicular!?!?) that your kid takes over your life for good and also that the good out weighs the bad...i dont see how it looks such hard work and all my neighbours kids do is scream and scream and shes the BEST mum ive seen! Ive told my partner how i feel i just love my life - having a kid who you have to see and look after 24-7 every single day makes me shudder...

[Bbbananas]

I like kids - but I couldn't eat a whole one.......

[wolf63]

Boo - that is what my brother calls me! :-)

[mccfluff]

i never wanted kids, managed to get myself sterilsed at 28 i'm 37 now and don't regret it at all.

although it has made life difficult on the relationship front as i've ended relationships due to the guy wanting kids or having them from a previous.

[mccfluff]

i want to be a crazy cat lady!

[snags]

'want' to be?

[B00]

Wolf, you only need to worry when you dress them as babies and take them for walks in a pram.

Apparently, it's what McFluffy does, but don't tell her I told ya, ok?

[ummmm]

Jeez Fluffy....I asked to get sterilised at 28 with 3 kids. They refused....

[mccfluff]

Boo, you told me you'd keep that quiet

darn it i'll have to disguise her now, it will be the banned heroe outfit for her tonight me thinks

[Old_Geezer]

Everyone is different. But you would best bring the conversation with your partner to a head ASAP. One can not both have offspring and not have offspring. Do they have to bow to your wish not to have one, or are you to relent and let them have one or two ? Or are you destined to split up at some point ? If you come to a decision will it be abided by ? At least if you are incompatible an early realisation allows your partner to find someone who is interested in kids.

[mccfluff]

ha ha ummm - no idea how i got away with it!

[Old_Geezer]

PS I'm sure taking on the responsibility is good character building stuff.

[Sqad]

isonchick......It was at one time thought that a woman who hadn't had a child by the time she was "odd" in some way.....imagine a woman not satisfying her maternal raison d'etre, but our modern woman feels a little different about it and no, having children to some women and men is not their "cup of tea".

So ilson....you may well be very very normal......sorry.

[Sqad]

P.S I am not too keen on kids either......particularly other peoples.....but mustn't complain as I made a nice living out of them ;-0

[ilsonchick]

joeluke - no need to be like that! there is love involved u know not just the thought of *** kids!

[andy-hughes]

I completely undersdtand your perspective - but sadly, we live in a child-oriented society - superficially at least.

As a step-parent of two daughters, I was always being asked if i wanted 'one of my own ...' and I used to reply, "What do you think my other two daughters are? House guests?"

My wife and I went on to have a third daughter, and I treat them and love them all the same, and would take strong issue with anyone who tried to say one was different from the other two in that sense.

So, I understand who people love to try and get you to 'conform', and you simply have to ride it out and be yourself, and be happy with your life, which is your right.

For the record - when you have aq child of your own, it's bodily functions do not phase you in the slightest - nature builds in a method whereby you can deal with the 'unpleasant' aspects of babies and children quite naturally, but that simply does not apply to other people's children - so it's perfectly fine that you are not enamoured with the daily 'routines' that go with parenthood.

It's clear that motherhood is not for you, and yes, you may change your mind, which is certainly not the same as saying that you WILL change your mind.

You are an individual - and more power to you - tell the 'conformists' to swivel and walk away.

[Greedyfly]

When I met my fella nine years ago he knew I didn't want children and he thought he probably would. We have discussed it many times and as he is older than I it has been at the front of my mind most of our relationship. He knows my feelings toward children and has decided he wants our relationship more than he wants kids. That's his decision and I ma happy he has and will stay with me. You never know how things will turn out but sometimes one thing is much more important than the other.

[craft1948]

My friend only wanted 2 children...........she's got 13 :-(

[Greedyfly]

wow 13 children = nightmare =)

[redcrx]

you may have to do some serious thinking if in years to come you partner still wants kids and you dont.

I was with my ex husband for 12 years. he always said that he may want kids one day, I always wanted children. It eventually got to the point where i wasnt able to sit and wait and he still couldnt say if he wanted them.

So the inevitable happened and we split. 7 years down the line, Im with a great fella, we have 2 children and couldnt be happier. I am best mates with my ex too as we just realised it wasnt going to work.

[craft1948]

lol Greedy...........a salesman who called round once thought she was running a creche.