My daugher was toilet trained July last year and has now started weeing herself in the day again~ PLEASE HELP

[sarahmajor102]

I toilet trained my daughter in July last year and she picked it up very quickly - we had it mastered in 2 weeks and she was very proud of herself with only a few accidents.
She is also fully trained on a night time now.

Until recently ~ over the last two weeks she has started to have accidents during the day ~ only when were in the house (she always remembers to tell me when were out that she needs to go to the toilet) This is becoming more and more frequent and I do not know what to do???

I have tried talking to her and asking why she is doing it and get the same response "Because I have"

I told her I will put nappies back on her like a baby today hoping this might make her realise what she is doing is wrong, she started crying, said she would not do it again and would use the toilet and still another accident later this afternoon...

Please help - what else can I do???

[sarahmajor102]

P.S ~ She was 2 when toilet trained and is now 3 and a half.

[redcrx]

just go back to reminding her every half an hour or so to go to the toilet.
She may just be getting too interested in other things and think she can hold on when she cant.
threatening to put her back in nappies may just cause upset rather than help with the issue.

[cazzz1975]

threatening her and putting fear into her will make her wet herself even more.

just go back to basics without being moody or angry at her.

[jackthehat]

Making an issue out of it will only escalate matters.
Try being a little more laid back about it.
Try not to use words like 'wrong'.........it is inconvenient, that's all.

[sarahmajor102]

redcrx ~ i have reminded her for the last 3 days and asked if she wants to go to the toilet.

Twice she has said that she was going to the toilet and then done it on the bathroom floor - when i asked why I get the same response ~ because I wanted too.

cazzz1975 ~ I don't see telling her she will go back into nappies threatening ~ just trying to think of ways to get her out of doing this as I have tried everything...............

[cazzz1975]

when your very young it can be upsetting, I would restart the potty training again

[redcrx]

you are just both going to get upset and frustrated. and upset children often wet themselves

My son went back to having accidents at that age. He would wet whenever he got descrated and forgot that he needed a wee.

[redcrx]

distracted*

[sarahmajor102]

Why do you think that she is doing this then as there has been no upset in the family - she is a very happy child and we do lots of things together.

I am finding it very frustrating but do not try to show this in front of my daughter and have gone back to basics but this has not worked, I constantly ask and take her to the toilet and still she is doing this.

What other things can i try?

How can I stop her from doing this ~ at the minute I see no light at the end of the tunnel ~ It just seems to be getting worse with everything I try and I dont know why she is doing it when she was doing so well.............

[cazzz1975]

maybe you both need a break from toilet training for a short while, maybe things have become too intense? she may be getting stressed out. it certainly sounds it..

[jackthehat]

She may be doing it as it is something over which she now has control. And she gets Mummy agitated, as a bonus........

Children are very intuitive at pushing buttons to get responses...........the less bothered you are, the less she'll think having wet knickers is a price worth paying.

[cazzz1975]

a good point jack..

[redcrx]

i wasnt suggesting she is upset, just that the whole putting back in napoies like a baby may make things worse as she may then get upset.

My son wasnt upset about anything, he was just too engrossed in other things and didnt want to stop what he was doing just to go to the loo.

There doesnt seem to be any medical reason if you say she is fine when youre out

[yinyang]

I agree with Jack too. One of my girls went through this and like you I tried a few different approaches. What worked in the end was when she came and told me she was wet I would just say I'd left dry pants and trousers on her bed so she could get changed and carried on with whatever I was doing.
Once the attention went away so did the problem.

[sarahmajor102]

She has been trained for over a year ~ not needing any reminders just going to the toilet~ it is only the last two weeks that problems have started and nothing in our family life or things we do have trained she is just weeing with no reasons as to why.

I dont think she sees it as a bonus as she gets my full attention all day, this is why i have posted a question in here as we have tried everything and don't seem to be getting anywhere.

[cazzz1975]

I think yinyangs reply is worth a try..

[sarahmajor102]

Thanks yinyang I will try that tomorrow.

[jackthehat]

She gets a different sort of attention when she does this though, doesn't she ?

No-one is saying that it has to make any sort of 'sense'.......

Have you tried the 'indifference' approach ? If you haven't, then you haven't tried everything, yet.

[sarahmajor102]

trained should have read changed in my last post!!!

[sarahmajor102]

Whats the indifference' approach jackthehat