Explain to her how upset she has made you and ask her why she felt the need to lie? If she has been so good until now she may respond to you taking an adult approach to the situation rather than shouting or punishing her?
Are you trying to make us believe that this is the first time that she has lied aged 11.
Nah! I dont believe it.
What I would have done is now illegal and socially unacceptable, but luckily there will be a string of replies which will be mainly useless, but politically correct.
Yes I agree with Sophie, if she has already been spoken to about it then you need to take the next steps anbd take the facility away from her until she appreciates it.
I would explain to her about trust - that she's getting older and will want to do more things where you will have to be able to trust her. If she is going to lie to you then you won't be able to trust her and she won't be allowed to do the same things as her friends. And let her know that you are disappointed in her.
Because she'll soon be a teen, they al lie! The need to lie becomes second nature, and sometimes it'll be the only time they're coherant- every other time they communicate will be by grunts.
hello ummmmm, I like your name!, it isn't a white lie, she has told me that her dad was using her spare minutes cause he was out of credit so I challenged him, he has told me she is fibbing, it was a proper lie, could have caused a lot of tension between me and my ex.
My thanks to Karen, I used your point, thanks to Boo for making me smile when I didn't feel like smiling and to everyone who tried to help me.
Never accuse a child of anything until you're sure of the facts. If she isn't lying, she'll lose trust in you.
If she IS lying - it's not such a big deal - but you need to be able to talk calmly to her and tell her to be responsible with her phone. They never listen, but if you're honest and open with her and don't fly off the handle, she won't need to lie about anything.