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Future eating disorder or what?
My daughter is 12 yrs old. And she constantly says she is fat. Ok, she is 5foot 3inches and weighs 104lbs. now does she Really think she's fat or what? i have always told her how pretty she is etc. I don't know where this is coming from but it worries me alittle. I know she is not doing anything crazy(at least not yet) but I really want to stop this before it goes too far. Any suggestions?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.i guess you could maybe make sure that when you eat at home it's big, healthy meals so she doesn't starve herself behind your back, tell her her health is far more important than her weight, that she'll change so much over the next 5 years and probably at a different rate to everyone around her so comparing herself to her schoolfriends is pointless.
at least she's talking to you about it, that means it's highly unlikely that she'll actually develop any sort of problem.
7 half stone at 5ft 3 is pretty skinny - I was the same at that age, I'm now 5ft 9 and 9 stone, always been a stick except for the year I stopped growing and carried on eating!!
Be aware that eating disorders are not about weight, they're about emotion. Anorexia is often an attempt to have control over just this one thing in life. So make sure she's not feeling overwhelmed at school, or bullied. And that you avoid putting pressure unduly for her to achieve certain things. My seriously anorexic schoolfriend was the only child of parents who had decided she was going to be a doctor. She eventually got it together to say "nuts to that" and took English and French for A Levels, and is now happy and fully plumped.
Best wishes to you both.