Rasing two children??

[lylabellablueyes]

I'm expecting my 2nd baby and i'm concerned about looking after them both and worried that I might struggle.

Is it really double the work like people say?

[johne1892]

Hi Blue, I think that's great news!

How old is your child at the moment?

[ummmm]

Not in my experience....

How good is number one child?

[Jemisa]

Yes Lyla, but they come with double the amount of love built in. - Good Luck.

jem

[redcrx]

it is obviously harder in early months, in as much as you cant just try and rest when baby is. But its not too hard, otherwise people wouldnt have more than one child.

at least youre only working part time, that should help

[petal54]

you've managed 1,so 2nd should be less of a prob,as you'll know what to expect.easier than triplets I shoul think

[crisper]

Bit late to worry about it now Lyla.. as number 2 is already on the way lol... just think of it as double the fun... I'm sure you'll all be fine..take care & good luck! x

[tigwig]

In a nutshell I would say yes it is double the work lol! It seemed very hard for me as there was over a 5yr age gap so I had completely forgotten what a newborn is like. I am sure you will be fine, it may be hard work but it is lovely when you see the 2 of them together. You will soon get into a routine and cope fine.

[andy-hughes]

No, it's not 'double' - it just has a new set of circumstances to work around.

The positives are - you know what you are doing with a baby now - so you can enjoy all those early stages when you were panicing with the first one!

If you are staying in with one, you can stay in with two.

They will grow and be company for each other - always a good thing.

The negatives - one waking up and crying will wake the other one ... that's all i can think of!

So on balance - enjoy your new baby! Good luck xx

[lylabellablueyes]

My current child is 2 and a handful :-)

She's well behaved, but high maintenance as she loves attention constantly. <3

[dotty.]

I found that when my daughter came along when my eldest son was 3, it made him better behaved and alot easier to handle, he was in the habit of getting up in the night but once his sister was in his room with him he was fine,

[DTCwordfan]

Involve your 1st one now in the thrills of the baby coming and then after he/she has arrived - so that they act as a big sister/brother......If suddenly the love is inadvertently "turned off" you can cause some problems to emerge........

[andy-hughes]

Absolutely - it's essential to start bedding in the notion with your daughter that 'we' are having a new baby, and you will beed her to be big, and show her brother or sister how to go on.

Including her will go a long way towards developing a sense of responsibility in her - which will in turn lessen her need for attention - which is going to be split, as she will find out.

[lylabellablueyes]

Thanks everyone, i'm sure i'll be fine and my worries are only natural. I'm so excited and i'm sure it'll all come together <3

[genstm1980]

Hi, I have a 19month old and a 5 month old. It was tough for a few months trying to get into routine, to figure out who needs what and when and how to multi task with greater efficiency! But it has got easier now we're all getting used to each other.There have been times when I feel like the worse mum in the world - both kids crying and not knowing what to do, I still have those occasional blips but thankfully fewer and farther between! But there are also those moments when both kids are napping happily and you get the chance to chill out for a bit and then you think "there's nothing to it!" You will be fine it just takes time - and if you have good family and friends then don't be afraid to ask for a hand to take time out when you need to. All the best x