abortion

[loza]

My friend has just found out she is pregnant and unfortunately isnt as happy as me about keeping the baby. She is 10 weeks gone and only found out 2 weeks ago that her partner has been with someone else. Is she still ok to have an abortion and what's the limit on having one? Thank you

[pixie_woo]

Hi Loza. If she can get booked in before 12 weeks the procedure is more simple. I think the final cut-off point is around 22-24weeks but as the pregnancy progresses the procedure becomes more complicated. Her GP should be able to put her in contact with a counsellor who will discuss her options and describe the operation. I wish her luck x

[nat_84]

The sooner she get's the abortion the better, it will also be harder for emotionally the longer she waits.

I think pixie's right in saying that 24 weeks is maximum you can wait.

Its a very difficult decision, make sure she's defintely happy with her it, as a friend of mine recently had a termination and wishes she hadnt....!

Good Luck xxx

[loza]

Thank you for your answers x i think she's scared of being a single mum but she works and as long as she knew her life would change from this point then i think she could handle it x theres alot worse things in the world than being a single mum and to be honest i think its best, at least there wouldn't be anyone to answer to (men wise)! x girl power! xx

[nat_84]

lol! Exactly! The woman who i work with (who has kids aged 2 and 4) says that from Birth and until the child reaches about 5 women should all live together in harmony without men...!!

Although to be fair i dont know what i wouldve done without my fella throughout my pregnancy! Makes me really sympathise with single mothers or really young mums...

But like you said certainly not the worse thing in the world!x

[pennypenny]

Hi again Loza,
I too am to be a single mum to be. Iv been adament from the beginning that i was keeping my baby and that i was going it alone(not exactly alone though) as i have great support from my family and friends.

When i was young i had a termination and it was a very emotional time and definately the hardest descision iv had to make. I agree with nat_84 the sooner the better if thats what she descides.
P x

[loza]

Hello pennypenny, she has some worries though that she might come to regret it afterwards and thinks the decision to have a termination may 'haunt' her for the rest of her life. She thinks its wrong to be carrying a baby with no dad around, knowing that the child might see his father but not be brought up living with him. Can you give her some advice on this....I've tried everything now, not to make her keep it but just to get her to understand both ways x

[pennypenny]

Hey
My opinion is that if its what you really want and are ready for a child in your life then why not. There have been many children brought up with a single parent and are loved and cared for as much as with two parents. I know i have alot to give and also a strong family unit and lots of friends etc that can help.
I wouldnt say its wrong for a child to be brought into this world with only one parent and defo should not sway her descision to become a mother. It definately has not altered my descision and i knew that id probably be a one parent family.
Life is not all black and white and we have to just play the hand we are dealt with and hope to make the right descisions.
Having a termination is a life long thing and does not just go away you do have to live with it. In my case it was the best for me at that point in my life as i was very young. It still there with me,even although i knew it was for the best.

I hope you and your friend are okay and that she makes the right choice.
Px