Any nice baby boys???

[stressing1]

I am expecting my second child on Friday and I already know I'm having a boy. The thing is I'm really excited and I can't wait for him to arrive. The thing is, a lot of people I've spoken to have told me that boys are an absolute nightmare! Completely different from girls, they are just uncontrollably naughty and won't behave. Now I personally think it's all down to how the parents are with their children, but seen as one of my oldest friends told me the other day that she hated her son up until he was about 6, it's really started me thinking. So I guess what I'm after is someone to tell me that they have lovely boys who are well behaved and well adjusted individuals, not the Omen children I'm being led to believe all boys are. Obviously I'm not expecting a child from The Stepford Wives, my daughter might be an angel 90% of the time, but for that 10% she can really get my back up! But I just want some advice. Cheers!

[daffy654]

I have two girls and one boy and I can honestly say that boys are much easier to bring up. Everyone else I know who has children of both genders tell me exactly the same thing.....boys are easier to cope with.

[lorri24601]

my best friend had 4 boys all under 5 and they were lovely ,well behaved and loving, they are all grown up with kids of their own now and stil a credit to her, stop fretting and enjoy your lovely little boy, most of them are what we make them, but none are angels all the time, be they boys or girls lol

[redcrx]

hi stressing!

i have a 27 month old boy. He is an absolute star 90 of the time. the other 10%he can be a little pain lol

he has character!, he has a fun streak that i dont recall my sisters having at that age but he is not a naughty child in the sense that he throws tantrums or anything (touch wood hes never tantrumed)

I think it does have some relation to the way the parents are at times and their surroundings.

I was out with him the other day and whilst waiting in a restaurant for my partner to come in, he was being 'naughty' which for him is standing on the seat to talk to me when i wanted him to sit down. A woman told me how well behaved he was as her granddaughter of same age will never sit still and is always throwing tantrums. It made me realise that my son is not naughty by most peoples standards and that Im spoilt by his good behavior.

I have to say that he is also very loving, and they do say that all boys love their mum

[Ice-Maiden]

I don't think boys are any more difficult than girls to bring up. Both have their "moments". Their behaviour largely depends on how they're brought up - what they see and hear, and how the parents deal with situations (hopefully in a calm manner). However, I've had a child with ADHD, which he's now thankfully outgrown (it wasn't caused by food intolerance or allergies), so I know how awful it can be when children act up. If you set a good example, your kids usually follow suit, but it's sad that your friend said she "hated" her son until he was 6. I could never say that about mine - & yes, they're lovely boys, so good luck!

[Psychick]

I have a daughter and 2nd baby on the way (I dont know what it it yet). Most people have been telling me that boys are better than girls! My advice is give him the same love and affection you give your daughter and enjoy every moment. Dont think about all the bad stuff that could happen because you will miss the good stuff whilst your waiting for the bad, and the bad may never happen.

[aims1202]

I just cant believe people can say that their own children and others children are ' a nightmare' or 'a cow' or other things just as horrible. But some do and this maybe part of the problem. A child is not born bad, all children can behave in a way we dont like sometimes but that is behaviour and it is learnt or it is to get attention. I dont believe there is such a thing as a bad or evil child. Or that one sex is worse than another. If children are loved, praised, feel secure and have boundaries they will behave well most of the time, but not always of course.
I have a boy and he is the most adorable and gorgeous little person in the world. He doesnt always behave perfectly well but he is a child who is learning and growing everyday and no matter what he does i will always think hes perfect!
Good luck with everything and enjoy!

[Ice-Maiden]

Well said Aims.

[redcrx]

i cant imagine how any mother could say they hated their child but perhaps she was suffering from post-natal depression and was undiagnosed, who knows.

[stressing1]

Thanks Guys, that makes me feel a lot better.
Psychick, I agree with what you said, I think I would wait for the bad stuff and miss the good stuff! I can't wait for him to arrive! Thanks again All! :-)

[Solarjunkie]

Absolutely every person I know who has both tells me that boys are easier! I have two wonderful sons and they were welcome in homes without children, which says something!
I think having good kids is 50% luck and 50% training - you have practice already so keep doing what you're doing and have 2 great kids. All the best.

[stressing1]

Thanks Solarjunkie, I just hope my son turns out even 50% like my daughter. As much as I have a winge at how much she annoys me sometimes, I am a lucky Mum! She's 6 and so smart, and at least with this baby I have a loving and supportive partner, I raised my daughter alone until two years ago. I think people also just want to give you the worst case scenario so you don't get your hopes up! :-)

[Psychick]

stressing, you are pretty much in the same situation as me. I also pretty much raised my daughter by myself and now have baby number two on the way. My daughter will have just turned 7 when this bump pops out (oh if only it was going ot be as easy as popping out! lol)
Is your daughter looking forward to becoming a big sister? Mine cant wait, wait til shes kept awake at night and shes get a whiff of one of those nappies! lol

[4getmenot]

redcrx I had a fun streak what you on about!! I dont have children myself I;d be happy with whatever I got but I love baby boys more, they have so much character. My nephew as redcrx says is a star most of the time and so polite at 2yrs old. I tend to think that girls have more tantrums than boys do and are often very spoilt.

[spudqueen]

I think that what you have to remember is that each child is an individual and has their own character, no matter what their sex. I have two boys, the elder one would empty any cupboard or drawer without a lock on it and was always looking for things to empty. When we went to my Mother-in-laws she'd tie up her kitchen cupboard handles with string! My second son never ever emptied a cupboard or drawer - for which my Mother-in-law was very grateful as she could dispense with the string! They are just very different people, and it has stayed that way, they are now 15 and 13. My sister-in-law has three girls, again each of them different. The eldest child is very outgoing, the middle one is very reserved, neat and tidy and the youngest one is a whirlwind! Just love your child for the person they are.

[tillyfloss]

aw congrats on upcoming arrival! From my experience neither boys nor girls are one way or the other - just little individuals who behave some time and misbehave others... think it's just a case of what his personality might be - you may be lucky and get a placid, easy going chilled out little boy! :-)
p.s. my daughter is often politely described as having 'character' but I would not swap her for the world! She's perfect as she is - even when having a paddy!!!!

[stressing1]

My daughter is practically wetting herself she's so excited! She's also a little bit confused about who's daddy the baby will have. She seems to think I'm going to have the baby and send it off to her dad's with her so she won't have any time to spend with him or me. I've had to sit her down and explain that the baby will be staying at home with me all the time as she and baby stressing have different dads. I think she's got it now! She says she wants to change his clothes, bath him and rock him to sleep, but the smelly nappies are all mine! :-)

[unrulyjulie]

awwww boys are wonderful and i have spoke to mothers of daughters and sons and and they all say boys are easier, my eldest boy is 16 now and so loving still! i wouldnt swap my boys for all the tea china

[quizmouse]

I am a mother of 4 boys. i ahd 4 under 7 and yes they were a handful at times but i always say with boys what you see is what you get. Girls can be devious little ***** whereas boys are so much more upfront. My sons have given me so much to be proud of, so much pleasure, an absolute delight. They are now 26yrs,24yrs,22yrs and 20 yrs and arr grand lads. I wouldn't have had it any other way. The worst time has been recently when they have introduced femaled into our household, what a nightmare!!! However I have had to get used to this and I will really miss them when hey all leave. Incidntly I have 3 grandchildren - GRANDSONS and hope the others keep up this tradition tho cant help feeling maybe we will end up with an odd granddaughter!
Dont worry you'll never look back once He arrives.

[Tigress]

We've got 4 children: 2 girls, aged 13 and 7;
2 boys, aged 8 and 5.

As babies: the girls seemed to whinge and moan a lot
and needed loads of attention;
the boys just laid there in their pram and
watched the world go by.

As toddlers: the girls knew their own mind and were
determined to conquer all;
the boys were into absolutely everything.

At pre-school: the girls used to come home with stories
about their friends and what they'd been
doing, along with some beautiful creations;
the boys gave me big hugs and kisses while
I signed the accident/incident book at least
once a week.

School: the girls are very studious and love to go;
the boys have no interest in it and are content to
kick the football round the playground and rip their
trousers and shoes.

At home: the girls bitch each other constantly;
the boys fight like a couple of bears.

I need their love as much as they need mine. Where would I be without them? I don't know. I can't imagine my life without them, and I'm told at least once a month how much of a credit they all are to us. I've got a lot on my plate but I wouldn't change them for the world.

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