As quite a few of you know, my daughter was expecting twins, however we were recently advised that she was having what is termed a Mono-amniotic pregnancy, and that the outcome wasn't great. During her fortnightly scan yesterday we were told that both babies had died.
She has now got to wait until Saturday to be admitted to the delivery suite at the hospital where she will be given a pessary (sp) every 3 hours to bring on labour.
She has- to all our horror, got to delivery these babies as normal.
I've pondered since yesterday whether to make this post, however as a few of of you knew about her pregnancy and the difficulties involved I thought it right to let you know.
I'm not really a praying person, but since yesterday I have been doing- I honestly don't know how we're going to get through Saturday and the weeks/months to follow.
If anyone feels this post is a bit too depressing, feel free to report it, it has however helped slightly to write it down.
Dearest B00,
I can only write with love to you and your daughter and the babies. My eyes closed and wishing for theirs and your paths to be as peaceful as possible in the journey.
Touching the screen I send you all my love.
B. xxxxxxxxx
Boo im so very very sorry for you and your daughter. I can not even begin to imagine what you are all going through but i send you all my love and a big massive hug. Take care sweetie x
This is soo sad and I really really feel for you and your daughter. It was only the other week that you sparked a discussion on identical twins and we commented on how lucks your daughter was.
I can't imagine what it is going to be like for your daughter on Saturday, but maybe the birth (is that even the right phrase) will help her to start to gain some closure.
I wish you and your whole family strength through all of this and I hope that you can focus on coming through all of this and, in time, move in to a happier and healthier time.
So sorry to hear your news.What a sad way for things to have to happen, your daughter and her partner must be devastated.
I know you will be there for them every step of the way and I know you will be heartbroken, not just because of what has happened, but because as her mother you will wish with all your heart that you could somehow just make it all better for her and take away her pain.
My thoughts are with you and your family. Take care of each other. x
I am sorry Boo ..I really am .... I am so sorry to hear this .
Must be devastating for you all. Chin up my pet ....will be thinking of you and your daughter .Love and hugs
Shaney xxxxx
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This sounds daft because I don't know you but your story has made me cry.
What an awful thing to happen, I'm so sorry. I cannot imagine what you and your family are going through.
Thank you everyone- just looked on now and seen all your kind messages, as silly as it sounds seeing as none of us know each other it HAS helped me slightly, though I've cried again reading them all.
We just need to get through Saturday and my daughter then has to decide what she wants to do with the babies. They've told us we can either take them for a funeral of our own, or leave them to them to arrange it all. They've also asked if we want a post mortem done, i'm selfishly hoping she doesn't want to do that though. As of yet, she's not in a fit state to decide what to do with them yet.
Thanks once again, i haven't given stars out, but believe me- you all deserve them and much more.
I am so sorry to hear of what you're going through, the thought of someone having to go through that has made my hair stand on end and bought a tear to my eye.
Everyones here for you stay strong for your daughter and be the brave Mum she needs.
OH BOO
Oh, I am so sorry for you all.
I really have no words to offer you and your family.
This is tragic for you all.
My heart goes out to you, your Daughter and all the family.
There is nothing anyone can say to help the pain and grief you will all be going through.
All I will say is this, You will be strong for your Daughter and I hope someone will be strong for you.
Shed all the tears, be there for each other.
I really am at a loss as to what to say BOO.
So, so sorry.
I will have a word with the man upstairs before I go to sleep tonight. love xxxx
Boo - I am so very sorry to hear about your daughter's very difficult situation. Words are not a lot of help at a time like this - but if I may, I would like to send up a little prayer that she will not only survive this, but thrive afterwards.
I am sure having you with her is a comfort to her.
I have always heard that God never closes a door without opening another one for you.
BBWCHATT
The old lady in Chattanooga, Tennessee, USA
im so very sorry...how very heartbreaking it was to read..my thaughts are with you and ur family.....u sit and think god im having a bad day then you hear or read something like this and it just puts your life into perspective...i will have a moment for you all 2nite before i go to bed.x
Just read your post and I wish to add that my thoughts are with you and your daughter. Can I just add that when the time comes try to advise your daughter to make her own arrangements for the babies, do not leave them in the hospital. I say this because I lost a baby at full term, it was a time ago 1971 and through all the trauma things were done in a rush. I do not know what happened to my baby and I regret it even to this day. She won't think so now but proper closure with the knowledge that her babies are with each other in a place she has chosen will bring some comfort in the future. Puss xx
Booster Girl, The Lord works in mysterious ways and if He says it was not time for the four little eyes to see the lightness, then I am afraid it is just his will.
However, he has deemed that your daughter and the father are capable of procreation, and thus in time they will deliver beautiful children, just like their Grandmother.
Who knows, it may even be triplets next time???
Then you really must get those fingers working. Knit one, pearl one, knit two pearl one.
Might not know you personally, but feel like I know you a wee bitty through reading your posts and just wanted to let you know you and your daughter will be in my thoughts and prayers.
All my love.
Oh my God B00, I am so heart broken for you all reading this. It's truely awful what has happened and my heart, big squeezy hugs and prayers are with you and your family. I really wish I could say (or do) something to help make you feel better, just know I am thinking of you xxxx
oh B00, i am so sorry to hear your news, I also had to give birth to a baby who had died as well, my mum was horrified but they wont do a section.
Please ass on my condolences to your poor daughter and to you and the rest of your family. xxx