help !

[alixe]

my boy friend is 21 im 15 and im pregnant it we want to keep it ill be 16 when i give birth what is going to happen to my babys daddy ?? :( x

[ChocolatChip]

Nothing I would expect.
Do your parents know about him? How do they feel?
Have you told them yet? How does your boyfriend feel about the baby?
Have your parents said they will procescute?
Please provide more detail.

[anthony25]

ummm hes been having under age sex which is against the law in my books i have 2 daughters and would be quite furious and would take the culprit to police myself

[ChocolatChip]

Ant, it is petty to the police, they would not bother with such a case, he would never be proscecuted anyway, as She's almost the legal age.

[oldhamfan]

He's also old enough to know better.

[redcrx]

the police will probably have words but doubtful theyd do anything.

you need to speak to an adult and perhaps decide how you are going to deal with the responibility and your parents will probably be the ones to talk to.

[oldhamfan]

More info here:

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Law/Question384 320.html

[Ice.Maiden]

I think the police'd say that it wouldn't be in anyone's interest to prosecute, but technically you're still underage and your bf's old enough to know better.
You need your parents behind you on this, and to think things through carefully.
It's not easy being a young mum, especially as you change so much between your teens and middle twenties.
There are people you can talk to if you haven't told your parents yet, but you need adult help with this.

[alixe]

its alixe both of our perants are completly behind us and we have been together for 3 years we have thought of all the options buh because of one of my siblings dying i would never get rid of the baby and we could never give it up and we both feel ready to be perants as when i turn 16 we have a house for me and the baby to move in is this enough info ?? x

[redcrx]

well if both sets of parents are behind you then whos going to report it to the police anyway?

[sara3]

you've been together since you were 12 and he was 18?

[bednobs]

oh my god that's scary and a half. A 15 year old with a 21 year old is on the edge of acceptability. 12 with 18 is just wrong

[ChocolatChip]

despite the fact alixe is young. The age gap is only 6 years, which is actually pretty small my partner and I met when I was 15 and he was 22, we were attracted to each other but never really did anything, and we got together just before I turned 18.
I think that having children this young is going to be so hard, what are you going to do about school and a job?
Is the house brought or rented?
You're gonna need as much money and all the time in the world for your baby.
Does your partner have a job?

[Mimi09]

alixe its going to be hard im not going to hide that , at 19 im 3month pregnant and my bf has to work long hours to support our house and pay for us and the baby. so that means that i hardly get to see him and it does cause stress that he looking for another job. at 15 you should be focused on doing your gcses and i know having an abortion isnt the best thing because after you regret it and never truly get over it. but just make sure your doing the right thing for both of u and all i can do is wish u the best of luck. just make sure you dont go threw this and you end up not staying together cos how will you cope then?

[shaunzy]

a 21 year old lad with a 15 year old girl aint so bad in my mind but if they've been together for 3years, meaning he was 18 and she was 12, thats just wrong in my mind! sorry

[alixe]

me again ive read through the answers and some of you have helped alot thank you :) but we are keeping the baby and our parents both know they have given us some money and my partner has got a house with room for a baby thank you for talking to me :) x