Pregnancy lonleyness :(

[yecats2885]

hi all, im 32 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and have been signed off work since middle of march due to health reasons (keep fainting nearly everyday, so am unable to drive)
im started to feel really down, whe i told my friends i was pregnant they were over the moon, saying they would organise showers etc, and my work friends started banging on about collections and leaving meals etc
but now i have actually left work no one seems to bother about me, i keep inviting people round but they make ecuses, i cant drive so cannot go to them.
i just feel so lonely

a friend from work died 2 weeks ago and no one even bothered to let me know, i found out the day after her funeral on facebook. i cant stop crying, i just feel like no one cares about me.

it winds me up but over the last 4 years in the company i have lost ount at the sickness and maternity collections i have put into but no one has even bothered to come and see me never mind chuck an envelope round the office.

im sorry if this sounds selfsih but im sure any mum to be in my situation would feel the same.

not really sure why im writing this cos im not asking a question, i just need to vent :(

[B00]

Aww bless your little cotton socks!

It's perfectly normal to feel crap near the end of your pregnancy, and you're just experiencing that.

Maybe your work friends didn't want to upset you by telling you about the colleague that had died?

You don't sound selfish at all, just pre baby blues, it passes honestly (usually when said baby is 20 odd and left home- i'm kidding!)

I'm positive that once you've had the baby, your friends and work friends will rally round.

Good luck.

[yecats2885]

well she had terminal cancer, and i specifically asked them to let me know...

[cazzz1975]

people get so caught up in the present that they forget people who have left, my dad experienced the same thing when he retired from work, things will get better once the baby is born (at least you will be able to drive again)

If you cant get about why not keep in touch via the phone or email/ facebook, its only for a short time. I can understand how you feel and its quite miserable, maybe you should mention how you feel to a good friend, maybe they dont realise that they are making you feel this way?

[4getmenot]

I'm sure they do still all care for you. It is a bit harsh them not telling you about your friend. But also they all have their own lives to live too. Maybe you are feeling over emotional at the moment and I'm sure you will get lots of visits, presents etc when baby is born. You dont know they may not be coming round because they want you to rest as you should be doing.

[tigwig]

Aww hun your not selfish. Can you not tell your friends how there making you feel? Also don't know if you've ever been on the babycentre website but this has fantastic birth groups where you can chat online to people who are expecting the same time as you are. Obviously this isn't the same as chatting in person but you could well meet people who live near you and end up getting new friends. Even if that doesn't happen I know I used to love a good natter and moan on there especially towards the end of my pregnancy. Good luck.

[genstm1980]

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear how sad you are - I can understand, I felt a bit ignored by work as well when I was on maternity but guess they just have their own lives and even if they do care about you they don't always think about you if you're not around. Perhaps they are waiting for the birth before they put their hands in their pockets? (I had to wait til my little one was three months old and then I had to make subtle references to a colleague so she could get the ball rolling!) I was an emotional wreck during my pregnancy anyway so hormones probably aren't helping you at all. Have you anyone around you to give you that bit of support? X

[beryl100able]

You've left one social scene and need to enter another. Google the National Childbirth Trust and start going to the coffee mornings they have for 'bumps and babies', and you'll soon meet nicer people.