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sibling rivalry
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my 16 year old stepdaughter is ridiculously cruel to our 6 year old daughter. she's never got a kind word to say to her, purposely taunts the dog with her toys knowing he'll destroy them, goes out of her way to wind her up. This is pretty much all the time, she doesnt really have spates of being nice to her. Will shout at her if she touches anything belonging to her, but anything of the youngsters is fair game to abuse.
We try not to get upset by it, but I'm worried it will cause a wedge between them in later years.
She obviously has alot of resentment issues, coupled with usual teenage hormone things which I can kind of understand but at the same time it doesnt make for a harmonious family life.
We are aware of spending equal time with both children and one doesnt get things without the other. Maybe she doesnt see it like that?
Is this often the case? and how would you handle it.
We try not to get upset by it, but I'm worried it will cause a wedge between them in later years.
She obviously has alot of resentment issues, coupled with usual teenage hormone things which I can kind of understand but at the same time it doesnt make for a harmonious family life.
We are aware of spending equal time with both children and one doesnt get things without the other. Maybe she doesnt see it like that?
Is this often the case? and how would you handle it.
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Difficult situation. Can you not sit down and discuss it with her in a friend to friend way, rather than a stepmother/child. Or could her father take her to one side and discuss it with her. Does the 16 year old get plenty of free time to herself or is the six year old always about? Can you ensure that both t here rooms are out of bounds to the other sibling.
Are you ensuring that your stepdaughter gets the priviledges that the little one doesn't, like ensuring she gets to feel more adult than child? The little one should realise too that a grown up sister might be able to do things that she isn't allowed to. These are just suggestions, I am not saying you are doing things wrong.
it has been mentioned to her by us. she got into some trouble at school a few months back and resulted in talking to the school councillor. It was identified she had resentment issues with our 6 year old. It cant be easy seeing her sister enjoying a full mum/dad relationship when her Dad is only interested in seeing her as long as it doesnt cost him too much.
She's off to college in Sept so I'm hoping she'll do a bit more growing up and develop other interests and a new circle of friends that'll take her mind off it.
She's off to college in Sept so I'm hoping she'll do a bit more growing up and develop other interests and a new circle of friends that'll take her mind off it.
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