Do you Know What Your Life Will Be Tomorrow

[Elderman]

Over the years, I have learned to be open and honest
This can be the hardest part, even if you truly feel for the person talking to you. When someone distressed comes to you, do you jump in with optimistic suggestions and solutions? Do you quickly point out that the situation is not so bad when compared with the suffering of someone else? This might seem helpful, but it can have a negative effect.

[boxtops]

No, I have learned that capping someone else's experiences with my own doesn't help at all.

[NOX]

If it's a solveable problem I try to solve it, if it's emotional support somone seeks then I usually give it, if it's wallowing in irritating self pity I tell them so.

[boxtops]

Elderman - the heading on this thread bears no resemblance to the content of your question. IMO.

[andrew1707]

Tuesday, I'm sure of it.

[Frank97]

Pretty much the same as today apart from I'll be one day older and wiser,(jury is out on the last one).

[RATTER15]

I have been trained in Palliative care, this often means that I have to discuss death with a patient or a relative, all my training is geared towards being truthful, this can really be difficult at times, sometime the harsh realities of the truth can be avoided to a degree but never lied about.

[anneasquith]

the first 3 rules, 1 listen, 2 listen, 3 listen ,

[rowanwitch]

Add a 4th full to Annes 3 ..... 4. WAIT given time they will usually tell you what they need from you... 5 explore....

[Sqad]

A simple philosophy.

In real life, I tell them what they want to hear.
On AB I tell them what i actually believe.

[moonraker558]

I have enough of my own problems.

[anneasquith]

the most important rule , rowan......... put the kettle on :)

[wolf63]

Name one person who didn't die (apart from Elvis) - so we all die, is death the worse case scenario in life? No - for some it is a release from anguish and/or pain.

Tomorrow is just the future that we have yet to 5crew up.

[mccfluff]

get up about 6.45 go have a shower get dressed go to work, come home cook dinner watch tv/read argue with fatty go to bed

bet i'm pretty much spot on

[sandyRoe]

When someone distressed comes up to me, I say: 'You think that's bad? Wait 'til you hear this...'
They soon go.

[seadogg]

Met a lady about an hour ago who, on seeing my dogs, said she had lost two like them recently and was very lonely as she was too old to have another. We talked about options, including fostering poor dogs who were waiting for a home. We ended with her jotting down details of a rescue group. If she is game, we can get her recommended and she will be an asset. If not there is nothing lost

Sympathy is a bit of a waste of time IMO.

[China Doll]

Pretty sure it will be drag self out of bed after snooze button goes off several times, feed cat and let him outside, feed and dress self, leave for work probably forgetting something vaguely important, get to work and discover that due to my 24 hour absence someone has monumentally cocked something up, spend an hour or so sorting that out, open emails and cry at the amount, prepare for meeting in A&E, spend the afternoon wading through some data and checking the friday clinic, come home, have dinner, get over-excited watching masterchef, have shower, play with cat, have cup of tea and watch something funny, go to bed and repeat on wednesday minus the A&E meeting and hopefully monumental cock up to resove.

[jomifl]

Of course not, the world could end this afternoon.

[Elderman]

Really, there must be more is to life then this? Look where you will in the world, the system seems to be ailing badly. It has its energy crises and runaway inflation, food shortages and pollution of the environment, revolutions, cold and hot wars, stockpiling of nuclear weapons, racial problems and surging discontent among the masses of mankind. No part of the earth is free from problems that pose a threat to human life and survival!

[vulcan]

Elderman, apart from the stockpiling of nuclear weapons, you could be describing virtually any period in history, quite what this has to do with you being open and honest, I'm not too sure.