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Adult Children by Previous marriage
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My husbands two adult children are constant beggars for money to pay bills when they live beyond their means. This is second marriage for both of us.
My two kids have always lived within their means.His kids are in their 50's, and each have filed bankruptucy twice. Now one of their children is in college, first semester, and has failing grades, has a car that my husband has paid for. Last June when she graduated she had a job but couldn't get up in the morning for the morning shift and got fired. So she spent the summer driving up and down the roads with graduation gift money my husband gave her. He had to give her money for books, rent, etc. She never had a job for the summer., jusgt partied and visited with friends.
Now she needs money for new tires. Of course, my husband has sent the money. We barely squeak by and I am constantly am scrimping and saving.
I think we should save anything extra to put in an account when we will have to pay for household help when we can no longer take care of ourselves. Of course, any extra goes to his family.
When I say anything, he thinks I am badmouthing his family. I see nothing but irresponsibility. The only thing positive I can think of is they are not alcoholics or drugees, but with the granddaugher I am beginning to wonder. In any event, it is gimmie, gimmie, with little or no effort to look for part time work.
Has anyone else been in this predicament? I think she is most likely getting advice from he X-wife and former daughter in law to keep bugging him for money. What ever the reason, I think it is sad he has to spend his retirement years supporting these deadbeats. Any advice will be appreciated.
My two kids have always lived within their means.His kids are in their 50's, and each have filed bankruptucy twice. Now one of their children is in college, first semester, and has failing grades, has a car that my husband has paid for. Last June when she graduated she had a job but couldn't get up in the morning for the morning shift and got fired. So she spent the summer driving up and down the roads with graduation gift money my husband gave her. He had to give her money for books, rent, etc. She never had a job for the summer., jusgt partied and visited with friends.
Now she needs money for new tires. Of course, my husband has sent the money. We barely squeak by and I am constantly am scrimping and saving.
I think we should save anything extra to put in an account when we will have to pay for household help when we can no longer take care of ourselves. Of course, any extra goes to his family.
When I say anything, he thinks I am badmouthing his family. I see nothing but irresponsibility. The only thing positive I can think of is they are not alcoholics or drugees, but with the granddaugher I am beginning to wonder. In any event, it is gimmie, gimmie, with little or no effort to look for part time work.
Has anyone else been in this predicament? I think she is most likely getting advice from he X-wife and former daughter in law to keep bugging him for money. What ever the reason, I think it is sad he has to spend his retirement years supporting these deadbeats. Any advice will be appreciated.
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When I first saw your title I thought the adult kids would be mid-20's, but these are adults, my heart sank.
I can only suggest you emphasise and stress to your husband that you are NOT bad-mouthing them in any way shape or form, but are increasingly concerened about the future well-being of you both.
Why can't their mother help them out?
I can only suggest you emphasise and stress to your husband that you are NOT bad-mouthing them in any way shape or form, but are increasingly concerened about the future well-being of you both.
Why can't their mother help them out?
Mid 50's and relying for their father to support them and their offspring. Most people in their mid 50's are actually giving some type of support to their elderly parents!!
I would be furious and reading the riot act to him and his offspring. His first loyalty should now be to you and you alone. He needs to safeguard your future - obviously you aren't going to get any help from his family.
I would be furious and reading the riot act to him and his offspring. His first loyalty should now be to you and you alone. He needs to safeguard your future - obviously you aren't going to get any help from his family.
Hi Everyone: Thank you for replying. I need to answer some questions....
I do not have grandchildren, probably won't because my kids are so busy working they let the clock run out.
His ex is one of the beggars also. The children are in their 50's. Tamb and Squad, I like your suggestions.......
I don't need this kind of aggravation, it hurts to see them take advantage of him. Just today, one E-mailed him and wanted to know how much money was he going to send for his Xmas gift........ So I will think things over........
I do not have grandchildren, probably won't because my kids are so busy working they let the clock run out.
His ex is one of the beggars also. The children are in their 50's. Tamb and Squad, I like your suggestions.......
I don't need this kind of aggravation, it hurts to see them take advantage of him. Just today, one E-mailed him and wanted to know how much money was he going to send for his Xmas gift........ So I will think things over........
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